Is there a term/word/concept for this.

When someone won’t believe or won’t let you induct from anything that is not explicitly stated. Or won’t believe something unless explicitly stated.

Ex. If someone avoids dogs, gets uncomfortable around them, doesn’t have allergies, they’re fine with other animals, hates the sound of them, doesn’t like pictures of them etc, my saying or believing “they don’t like dogs” or “they probably don’t” is over reaching or unreasonable because they never stated that they don’t like dogs.

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GlassDog · 41-45, M

It sounds a little like pedantry, which myself and a lot of people are work are guilty of (because it's necessary for our work), but we always recognise and make fun of it in ourselves when we do it socially.

Faust76 · 46-50, M

I'm just thinking "boneheaded" but there's probably a more specific word for that.

Conversely, many if not most people flip out the old "assume makes an ass out of you and me" canard. I don't normally argue that with people, but honestly you have to make some reasonable assumptions to be able to function (Let alone, you know, carry on a conversation), and usually I don't even see the thing I'm supposed to have assumed. I mention this as most people seem to consider "not liking people to make assumptions or conclusions about them" the norm and perfectly normal.

Gusman · 61-69, M

Maybe they have a Phobia about Dogs. Not so much that they don't like them but that they have an uncontrolled Physical and Psychological reaction

Cease · 26-30

@Gusman I don’t think that invalidates or is out of line with “not liking’.

Saying they have a phobia just contextualized and gives reason for the dislike. No?

Gusman · 61-69, M

Yes. Phobias come from somewhere. Usually from past negative experiences.
It would be more correct than not to say they do not like dogs.The reason may never come to light.

Faust76 · 46-50, M

@Cease I guess the term ultimately depends on the reason they behave like that. I like the term "pedantry" GlassDog suggested, that would be the case if they were allergic. But heck, it could be dementia if they don't genuinely remember what they said (or how they felt)! On the positive terms you have self-defined and independent, if they simply don't like others putting words in their mouth. But it may also be they're argumentative, indecisive, complex or multifaceted, easily influenced, disagreeable, self-conscious.

I'm kinda reading the question as, the paraphrased summary is correct but they're disagreeing because they never used those exact words, in which case pedant/pedantry would be fitting. I'm trying to remember what people call me though, it's probably that! ;) Actually "nit-picking/nit-picker" is another one that comes to mind if they care about a minor distinction.

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DrawntoaDistance · M

My head is hurting badddd ...

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

A faulty inference, perhaps?

english · 56-60, M

we call them ignorant idiots 🙃

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