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Husband is becoming a mooch but I love him with all my heart

So married the man of my dreams.. he's amazing in so many ways. Extremely smart, hard working, sweet as can be, does most of the household chores, funny as hell.. he's an attorney and he does make a good living.. but he's paying things like student debt, credit card debt, car payment and rent.. by the time the month is over it's like he never has any money.. as a result I end up paying for just about EVERYTHING.. he often tells me he's going to pay me back and doesn't (I know because he gets behind I get it) but I'm starting to get resentful... we are pregnant and expecting a child in December and I've been trying to save save save but it's impossible with all these things popping up that I end up paying for (which he never pays back). How do I handle? Do I get mad and threaten? Do I just let I blow over and keep giving it my best effort to stay afloat (because life's to short)? Need advice... apart of me wonders if he's just taking advantage... his dad does that to his mom.. she's worked like 60 hours a week while he just stays home and drinks all day.. so apart of me wonders if he's just trying to push and see how much I'll pay/taking advantage.. but the truth is I don't know and would find it so hard to believe if he was ... just need advice please
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Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
Maybe I'm not understanding? Are you guys not living together because you say he is paying rent etc so if you guys are living together is he not paying the rent for you too? Here is the thing...when you are in a relationship it isn't me versus you... you both should be working toward a common goal. I expect my guy to take care of me and that I will take care if him. I would sit down with him and talk budgets. Determine how much you both bring in a month versus goes out. Set a budget with both of your money equally and then agree to set so much aside for fun together and don't forget to save some for emergencies. I can't tell you whether he is taking advantage of you or not, but I suggest you have a serious budget conversation no before your lawyer ends up with him before a judge dividing your assets 50/50 and someone paying child support in the end because I read that the top reason for divorced now in the USA is differences pertaining to money followed by infidelity. Good luck on your journey.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
He pays half of the rent... actually less than half...I literally pay for everything else... including going out and groceries etc.. thank you for the advice@Fungirlmmm
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@Brassm0nk3y ahh that makes sense. Definitely have the conversation. Good luck. I'll listen if you need a sounding board. Just pm me.