OMG. I can tell you one thing if you're looking for love buying into soulmates is a surefire way to make your life miserable.
73% of the American population believes romantic happiness is intrinsically linked to destiny ... another way to frame that is 73 percent of the american public have a \vantage point there's not even a snowballs chance in hell is correct and are delusional. If it were destiny all that hard work and effort wasn't necessary at all nah I can just play on easy mode.
I'm sorry, I don't say the things I say about this countries delusions to hurt its feelings I'm frustrated though because most of my neighbors believe things I now realize are bullshit about soulmates blame hollywood and am operating under different beliefs about the nature of romance.
one of the reasons I want a partner that believes in growth and to reject the ones who still buy into Destiny is simply because destiny people lose interest rather quickly once they realize their partner is just a flawed human being like everyone else and then ghost you and yeah better to just not date that person in the first place.
Romance IS growth. NOT destiny. there's nothing particularly romantic abotu destiny either. I mean honestly if it were fate it wouldn't matter what I did effort wouuldn't even be necessary hard work to create a connection would be pointless actually TRYING to bridge the distance would be pointless.
what's romantic at all about buying into easy mode love? maybe love should be challenging.