How do you connect better emotionally with others if it doesn't come naturally?

By getting professional help lol. Realizing that you want to be different is a good first step. Learning to engage with others, maintain relationships, and establish healthy boundaries are things we should have been taught as children, yet here we are. A quick Google search will probably lead you to some good articles about it. Be willing to learn and don't give up on yourself.

Pick and choose, don't force yourself it it's just not within you. If there is a spark feed that.

I don’t know man