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What can be a good farewell gift to give to my girlfriend?

Last week, her parents got her Engaged to guy a from their Caste. That's how it happens in my country. 4 years of relationship and love we'll have to end now, we have to meet in a few days and break up. It's gonna be very hard since we lived in the same building, and we're friends since childhood all of a sudden she will be married and gone to another City in a different state. Relationships are considered against the religion in most of India, even if you have loads of money you cannot woo your girlfriend's parents if you come from a lower caste.
I'm wondering what can be a good goodbye gift to give her..
Sorry for the bad English.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
You seem so "okay" with everything that has just happened. Arent you going to to fight for her? How come you are able to accept the norms of society so easily, you wasted 4yrs together.
Indianboy · 31-35, M
@WildHeart If only fighting was easy here..
It is tough, but i am sure the guy can give a try!
Authoritarian · 22-25, M
@WildHeart
We've had all the fights and discussions, last year we were waiting for right time to ran away after elections in 2019 and she had said she will handle everything in her house till then but this happened so quick and after a person is engaged breaking it bring a huge shame to family..
There are very few sane people on this site, others are just introverts and depressed people bitching about their first world problems, I don't do that doesn't mean I'm "Okay" Only God knows how much pain I'm suffering from. Each day seeing people congratulating her on Facebook, the fiance family tagging pictures of hers and that guy, it hurts.
I hate all these society norms but I'm helpless here just sitting and suffering.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@SW-User How so? Love has nothing to do with origin. Why should we allow the norms of our forefathers control the present and future? I also have many family and friends from India. Arranged marriages are still practiced but not like it used to be.
JBird · F
I am sorry to tell you this but Indian culture sucks. I don't understand why people have to look someone's family they're born into. Being part Indian, I know about that a lot.

Just smile, say goodbye and turn away. You will find something better.
Danez · M
I know the perfect gift. Pregnancy.
Danez · M
@rckt148 it was a joke in poor taste. I understand how it is even though the culture is quite different and difficult to comprehend that that is truly how it is. Whereas in my culture we value who we love and who loves us. So the utmost importance to me would be, if it were my daughter, I would let her make her life choices and choose the partner that makes her most happy and cares for her no matter what color, race, or sexual orientation. I would never turn my love from her simply because of someone she chooses. I couldn’t so easily disown or shun any of my family.
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@Danez You and I agree ,but some cultures would deface her if she shamed her family so no one else ,not even this young man would want her again ,,it sad ,but reality
Danez · M
@rckt148 yes, and there are some that would go even farther to restore a family’s honor.
MasterLee · 56-60, M
SW-User
Awww that's really sad..maybe get her a little piece of jewellery so she can wear and remember you
rckt148 · 61-69, M
a figure of my broken heart to remind her
we could have ran off and been happy
TeirdalinFirefall · 31-35, M
Don't be silly, you two got to elope.
SW-User
Indian? Damn...
SW-User
Boot in the ass

 
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