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How would you determine the length of a relationship if it’s been on and off? (Read Details)

Maybe a strange question, but it’s something I’ve often thought of. I’ve known people who will be together for a while, then break up for whatever reason, then get back together. If you’re together for a year, but take a break for six months then get back together for another six months, have you been together for two years or a year and six months? Or would you consider it new and only say six months?
Of course, if you get back with someone and spend twenty or so years with them the six month break will become irrelevant. But I’ve thought about this a lot - not because it’s that important or anything, but I just find it interesting. I’ve seen people take year long breaks from each other, in which they see other people, and still consider that a part of their relationship.
Again, I realize this isn’t that important, I just find it interesting how different people perceive it. What are your thoughts?
Lackwittyname · 51-55, M
I would probably just count the time together if it is a shorter relationship, but as it got longer would ignore the break. Also depends on how long the break is, if you were together for a year, took a three year break and got back together for another two I would not say it was a six year relationship, but one that started for a year, took a break and back together for two.
KatieKatze · 22-25, F
That makes sense, and I do agree it’s heavily dependent on the break itself. A lot can happen in three years, especially compared to a few months. I had a friend who had a relationship similar to your example situation. They did say they were together the whole time, though. Personally I found it odd, especially sense they both had other mildly serious relationships during.
SW-User
Nah, i just count from the beginning until the end. If we take a break in between, i still count it.
KatieKatze · 22-25, F
I can understand that. If you’re with someone for twenty years but had a six month break fifteen years ago, it wouldn’t make sense to count it. I guess it depends on the break, though. The size and what happened during. I’ve known people who maintained other serious relationships within breaks, so it seems a little different to me.
SW-User
I think it depends on how long you end up together. As you say if its 20 years then the break is irrelevant and wouldn't be counted
walabby · 61-69, M
You say, "We've been together 6 months, this time.."...?
SW-User
The time in which I was committed to them and no one else.
JP1119 · 36-40, M
Don’t know, I’ve never been in a relationship before. Why do you need to measure how long you were in a relationship?
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