Oh I'm very sorry to hear that @SW-User I'm finding different out there. You treat a woman nice they take advantage of you. Friend zones you and finds a douche to complain to you about. Not all are like this but it's becoming a pattern.
I think it really depends upon the woman. The same thing can be said for men too. I'm not sure why people gravitate toward the douches. Maybe it's the excitement. Not sure because I don't do that. When someone acts like a douche, I start to pull away. If they continue it, they get ghosted. I have too much of an ego and self-respect. I also prefer stability over an emotional roller coaster ride. BTW, as far as stability goes, you know you aren't going to find it on this site, right? lol.😉