If I tell my child not to date outside their race, does that make me a racist ?

I did date outside of my race and my dad told me to stick to my own kind. I remember thinking fuck you, I'll go out with him if I want to, in my head. I told my daughter go out with who you want to as long as whomever treats you with respect. That's all I was concerned about.

putting all the 'race'/ ethnicity / culture issues aside, I don't think any parent should be telling their children who to date / not date. It's the child's life and their decision to stay within their race/culture/religion (etc) or not.

I am lucky that my ancestors didn't say what you are. Neither I nor several of my ancestors and an entire families progeny perhaps, would never have been.

I see how people want to preserve their racial traditions and ideals and are worried that they might be lost because of it, and I am very thankful that the most important ones in my own opinion of my own beliefs live in me.

Because otherwise I might think just as narrowly, love just as temporarily, and be just as blind and stubborn about a greater number of options and increased level of challenges being a bad thing for everyone.

It's probably racist to some, distasteful to others, unwanted or of no use to yet even more.

To generalize and impose parental feelings upon a child is like trying to make them into another you.


Isn't one of you enough?

I don't care what people do. If they're in love who's to say it's wrong.

Yes. I believe this is the definition.

People are entitled to their opinions, even if they are wrong. That doesn't mean the child has to listen to them, or anyone else. I think most parents would prefer their kids to date their own race, no matter what race they themselves are.

Yes I think that is what will make of you to some extent. What would be the reason though? It is interesting how the unknown of other cultures or ethnicity seem to scare or deter people away. I am of a mixed racial background and I think my world has opened up so much more than the others who tend to stay in their own "mix". Then again, what is the definition of race. If you check your ancestry, no one is really of one pure ethnicity. We are all kind of mixed up and interconnected in our blood.

Instead, it is the values of a person that we should be looking at.

No. That's preference. Yours though, not your child's.

Not a racist.. just a little narrow minded if you ask for my opinion.. But that's just an opinion...

Also I think it's ok to give advice to your child but I hope you're not forcing it..

It's only difficult because people like you are still telling kids it's wrong. I was told the same by my dad...I didn't listen.

Yeah, I'd say that it's definitely racist. Especially since race and culture aren't synonymous.

No I wouldn't say it's racist but you can't help who ya love

you can spin it any way you want to.

No, unless you're badmouthing another race it's not racism

Sounds like a sure fire way to get most kids to do it, actually.

Yes

Yes.

No.