I Hate It When Someone Messages Me And Say Hey Or Hi

But perhaps the problem is my lack of confidence, and being a bit of an intellectual snob which I wish I were not.

I do agree with you almost entirely.. Regular hassling is not cool.. But those who have lots of women in their circle are.. I'm still ashamed to say (not yet forgiven myself entirely) used to be me. I came here for support. But it was flooded with my own kryptonite. So I flailed for a while. But, people like you saw my words, and forgave/ignored the other side. And so I came to develop.

Everyone needs a hand sometimes, but we all choose the battles we fight. If someone needs help but I am unable to offer anything that will be of use to them, I will choose not to fight that battle. It doesn't happen too often, sometimes I simply offer a small comfort just as a token of appreciation that they opened up and shared something.

But yes, there are those users on here who need education in the art of respect and such. But education need not be painful or isolated. It's hard trying to be better, there's always so many different aisles to choose to put your effort into next. But it's definitely the journey that counts.

But your being a ass if u don't reply to them and there looking for a friend now I know never to message u asshole

But your being a asshole if u don't reply to them and there looking for a friend now I know never to message u asshoke

I have to say I'm quite offended by your response. this is meant to be a supportive forum. I don't feel any support from what you wrote at all. you have also misunderstood both of us. please read the post again and try to read what is really written, not what you expect to read...

Sorry yes sir I'll read it again

See what he wrote got me a little upset

thanks much. if there's really a part where I offended you and others, I apologise. please highlight it (quotes help) and I'll try to explain and/or adjust my views to something better - we're all here to learn...

But it was more of that other guy sorry

First of all it is what she wrote not what he wrote. And your calling me an asshole has got me more than a little upset. Out of curiosity, offline do you usually call middle aged women assholes multiple times after you have barely had a first conversation with them? Look I came here to deal with depression issues primarily. While I do enjoy helping people but I do not believe that it is my personal obligation to help everyone. It's the Internet and my way of differentiating perverts from people in need is very limited here, ok?! I have once tried a conversation with someone who just sent a hi out of the blue, and very soon it resulted in him wanting to have photos from me, which I would not provide. On the other hand I have had an experience where someone messaged me just how are you at first, but when I did not answer, he said something more, and then I did answer, and it resulted in a worthwhile conversation. So that too happens. I have the sense that I am unusual as a female on here for not blocking anyone ever, so I leave the doors open. But if I also interacted with everyone who contacted me, I fear that the proportion of conversations that I would wind up having with perverts would drastically increase. And while I am better emotionally than I have been, but I am still not fully ok and I am vulnerable. Do you understand???? The downside to the Internet is that I cannot tell when someone is just lusciviously looking my way just because I am female.

No mam I'm really sorry

Can u forgive me

Yes, I can.

Thank u mam

dude peace out. chill. language never helps anyone, not does aggression. notice until your language came in, there was a peaceful discussion here, where we were challenging each other, agreeing and disagreeing. you are most welcome to join the discussion, but it helps to quote exactly what you're referring to and say how it makes you feel. insulting others' views seldom adds value to anything that's all. relax :)