I Write Sometimes
This medium can be cruel.
Mere text can let people to impart things from your words that were never intended. The lack of eye contact and body language can leave words to be misinterpreted at will.
Sadder still is when we are left with no recourse to fix the situation. The offended party is so staunch in their perception of the words written that they will not listen to reason. The benefit of the doubt is thrown out the window. If these misunderstandings become enumerated, it becomes even worse.
This happens even if you've taken the time to get to know each other for year or more. It can seem like suddenly this person sees you in a "new light", and you are now the devil incarnate.
It is flabbergasting. Not one person in your real life would see you in such a light, but this online "relationship" flares with such intensity you'd think you were trying to put the flames out with kerosene.
Before you know it, something you devoted so much time nurturing (collectively) is gone.
Yes, disasters happen, misunderstandings happen in real life too, and it is of mention that people do take advantage of others. All too often.
But when you're left feeling that if this person would have had the chance to hear the tone of your voice, seen what was in your eyes, and view the manner in which you were standing, they would not have come to the conclusion they so vigorously hold to.
Instead, it's frustrating that some person will spend the rest of their years believing that you are someone that you are not. In effect, tainting how that person will likely view others from then on.
I'm sure some would say, "That's their problem". I get it, there is a grain truth to that statement, but it's a sad thing to accept, in my opinion.
The situation created from the misunderstanding helps no one and instead sows more mistrust.
That's the last thing any of us need.
Mere text can let people to impart things from your words that were never intended. The lack of eye contact and body language can leave words to be misinterpreted at will.
Sadder still is when we are left with no recourse to fix the situation. The offended party is so staunch in their perception of the words written that they will not listen to reason. The benefit of the doubt is thrown out the window. If these misunderstandings become enumerated, it becomes even worse.
This happens even if you've taken the time to get to know each other for year or more. It can seem like suddenly this person sees you in a "new light", and you are now the devil incarnate.
It is flabbergasting. Not one person in your real life would see you in such a light, but this online "relationship" flares with such intensity you'd think you were trying to put the flames out with kerosene.
Before you know it, something you devoted so much time nurturing (collectively) is gone.
Yes, disasters happen, misunderstandings happen in real life too, and it is of mention that people do take advantage of others. All too often.
But when you're left feeling that if this person would have had the chance to hear the tone of your voice, seen what was in your eyes, and view the manner in which you were standing, they would not have come to the conclusion they so vigorously hold to.
Instead, it's frustrating that some person will spend the rest of their years believing that you are someone that you are not. In effect, tainting how that person will likely view others from then on.
I'm sure some would say, "That's their problem". I get it, there is a grain truth to that statement, but it's a sad thing to accept, in my opinion.
The situation created from the misunderstanding helps no one and instead sows more mistrust.
That's the last thing any of us need.
