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I Feel Meh

So... this guy. I don't really want to weigh down people in real life with the drama so I figured I'd just vent about it all on here lol. So we met on a dating app, in like late November/early December. We were texting all the time and he said he wanted us to meet in real life. I still live with my family at the moment, so I said I felt like I needed to tell them first out of respect, and also bc they are nosy as heck and would find out anyways if I left the house because I never do anything 😂

Anyways, my family went through a rough time & I didn't want to add stress so it ended up being around the beginning of February when I told people. So I told the guy, I was like I told my family, let's meet up. It was right around Valentine's Day, so I figured he'd ask for something then, but he didn't. (Should have been a red flag)

So we met closer to the end of February. And we ended up meeting 2 more times since then, just for like dinner & going to the movies and stuff. He was pleasant to be around. Always paid for it and held doors open and that type of stuff.

But when we were texting he just started to seem like he wasn't as interested. Our last date was on a Monday and it was like the next Sunday before he even brought up meeting again, so like almost 2 weeks. And maybe it's just too old fashioned or something but I've always believed that the guy should be the one chasing the girl. If that's not your cup of tea, like dude I understand but that's what I believe.

Anyways, I got tired of waiting around for him. I brought it up to him a few times, asking if he was still interested & what was going on and everything and he basically brushed me off. So I finally was just like dude, I like you but I'm not gonna throw myself at you. If you want this to happen then actually do something or like I'm out bc I don't want to sound selfish but I could find another guy who would be constantly asking to hang out and stuff, like I just didn't feel like a priority to him (even though he was a priority to me) and stuff.

So I basically went off on him in the nicest way possible lol, but still making my feelings clear. Anyways, that was late Saturday night, and he replied like "oh wow I guess I'm just a horrible person and blah blah blah" and I haven't heard anything since. The whole point of the text was that I didn't feel wanted, so if he's thinking I'm gonna text like "Oh I'm sorry please forgive me I need you"....well then that would be dead wrong lol. I'm at the point where yeah having a boyfriend would be cool, but I'll still thrive without one. Anyways, I don't know what will end up happening because it is still all pretty fresh lol I just really needed to get it off my chest.
I went out twice with a guy from a dating site, once just for coffee and the second time we went to the zoo. He was pleasant enough in a distant way. We were in the Reptile House looking at snakes when he said, I really like you a lot, and it's scaring me. Can we take a break?

A break from what? I said of course, he took me home and said, Please don't think this is the end, I'll be in touch. That was almost two years ago. I kinda think that WAS the end. Or he died.
ajsk13 · 51-55, M
IMHO first off texting is a terrible way to communicate..face to face is the only way to build a relationship,the addition of being able to see their face tells you right away what their intentions are ,being he's hit and miss on moving forward I'd let it go and move on,It kinda sound like he has someone else on the side
UnknownDesires · 26-30, F
I think I'd write him off and move on.
SW-User
@SW-User Sigh.
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@Mamapolo2016 🤗😊
SerenitiesScars · 31-35, M
Lol... You should "Chase" him the way he's been chasing you and just see how he feels about it when you blow him off and act like nothing's a big deal... xD Just for fun until you find someone new.. xD May as well mess with him now...
SerenitiesScars · 31-35, M
It's not a direct comparison of rape and murder. It's a comparison of the ethics. xD You fucking idiot. xD I didn't even bring up murder! xD Only rape... xD How fucking stupid are you?

xD I could have used thievery. xD I could have used drunk driving. xD I could have used ANY number of crimes to make the comparison because it's based on the ethics of LAW and how people pay tax dollars to enforce that SOMEONE i.e. A PERSON, goes out and takes care of these things when wrong doing occurs.

xD So the whole grounds of your argument is fabricated on something that doesn't exist... "People shouldn't provide a countermeasure for when someone does them wrong" xD In what reality do you live in where lawsuits aren't happening on the daily... xD And people aren't being arrested for being dumbasses on the daily... xD You get what you give.. xD And all I was telling the OP was to give back to them what they gave... xD So please shut the fuck up... xD For everyone's sake...

xD I never said you "Had to" xD I said you can't, because you know you can't. xD You're just here to talk shit... xD Because you're retarded like that.. xD
UnknownDesires · 26-30, F
@SerenitiesScars You certainly have anger issues. Are you impotent as well? Is that why you're advertising on SW for a girlfriend?
SerenitiesScars · 31-35, M
I'm not even angry... Who's judging who now? xD You know for someone who likes to do things you sure like to dictate on why it's wrong to do others... xD Seriously, get your brain checked...

And correlating impotence with a lack of a girlfriend, and a joke post once again... Is retarded.. xD Bust as I've come to find out, you are... xD So really I shouldn't be so surprised.. xD But it's just that each new response you make is dumber than the last so it does keep having that surprising effect on me.. xD
NoYou · 26-30, M
Maybe something bad happened in his life
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Another way to handle a lack of attention or interest is to get very busy doing things and seeing people. When (if) he finally gets in touch, tell him truthfully that you'd like to see him but you are just [i]sooo[/i] busy lately. Let him ignore you or compete for your time.
SW-User
It was a probably a wise move just to let it go and move on....he obviously wasn't that enthusiastic for whatever reason. Like you pretty much said...no need to waste anymore time than necessary with someone that doesn't want you around.
Mktonght · 61-69, M
Cheers for you Rachel! You deserve respect and at least the communication from a man. I have a bit of fatherly advise, be patient and demand a man to respect you and your body and mind. It is not at all to much to ask and expect from the right person.
expomasseur · 36-40, M
Good for you! It's too common for people to compromise their standards to make their current situation easier. I wouldn't judge either way, but I'm happy you're nicely sticking to your guns.
deadpoolfan90 · 31-35, M
Ya i feel something was very terrible in his life or he has some deep secrets of some kind
Mikemcneil · 61-69, M
You made the right decision. Time to move on now. He's not the right guy for you.
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
well, this thread too a dump real fast.


(why am i not surprised... )

:/

 
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