I Am a Caregiver
I’m annoyed.
My great grandmother is on her deathbed. I’ve yet to be upset about it, I’m just trying to keep her from feeling any pain. Her daughter is here trying to help but all she’s doing is making things worse. She just spent 45 minutes forcing her mother to stay awake and readjust for no reason. She was as comfortable as she could get, sound asleep.
She’s demanding that we wake her up every hour to take her vitals, to keep track of how fast she’s dying. She’s telling me this and that about how her death and decline will go, as if I haven’t done my own research and had discussions with her nurses as her caregiver. Her caregiver of two years, at that.
She is also set on doing everything she can to keep her mother breathing for as long as possible, which I understand, but I feel is morally wrong. We shouldn’t be trying to prolong the inevitable. We should be doing everything we can to keep her comfortable so she can die in peace.
Only reason I’m not saying anything to her is because she’s about to lose her mother and is already upset. Drama does not need to be added to the list and let me tell you, this woman gets dramatic.
Idk. Maybe I’m annoyed because I’m tired, what do you think? I’m trying to be understanding of her situation but she’s been absent the entire time I took care of her mother. She has nothing to do with the nurses, the doctors or the medications. She doesn’t care what the hospice nurse has said to me, doesn’t care if she takes her medication.
Actually said “it’s okay if she’s in pain as long as she’s breathing.”
No, it’s not. Nobody wants to die in pain. I have her the medication anyways and her daughter is mad at me for it because it basically dopes her up to the point she can’t stay awake.
🙄
My great grandmother is on her deathbed. I’ve yet to be upset about it, I’m just trying to keep her from feeling any pain. Her daughter is here trying to help but all she’s doing is making things worse. She just spent 45 minutes forcing her mother to stay awake and readjust for no reason. She was as comfortable as she could get, sound asleep.
She’s demanding that we wake her up every hour to take her vitals, to keep track of how fast she’s dying. She’s telling me this and that about how her death and decline will go, as if I haven’t done my own research and had discussions with her nurses as her caregiver. Her caregiver of two years, at that.
She is also set on doing everything she can to keep her mother breathing for as long as possible, which I understand, but I feel is morally wrong. We shouldn’t be trying to prolong the inevitable. We should be doing everything we can to keep her comfortable so she can die in peace.
Only reason I’m not saying anything to her is because she’s about to lose her mother and is already upset. Drama does not need to be added to the list and let me tell you, this woman gets dramatic.
Idk. Maybe I’m annoyed because I’m tired, what do you think? I’m trying to be understanding of her situation but she’s been absent the entire time I took care of her mother. She has nothing to do with the nurses, the doctors or the medications. She doesn’t care what the hospice nurse has said to me, doesn’t care if she takes her medication.
Actually said “it’s okay if she’s in pain as long as she’s breathing.”
No, it’s not. Nobody wants to die in pain. I have her the medication anyways and her daughter is mad at me for it because it basically dopes her up to the point she can’t stay awake.
🙄
22-25, F
