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I Miss My Grandpa

He died from the aftermath of a really bad stroke. v.v
It caused him to be paralyzed on the left side of his body, he couldn't breathe on his own, couldn't swallow (well maybe with some therapy he would swallow on his own again), and just too much more.

He was an extremely independent man, and he didn't like to depend on others. The life he had after he had the stroke just wasn't his kind of life. He couldn't do anything he loved anymore. If we didn't end his misery, he would have needed care 24/7, and who wants to see their dad/grandpa living that kind of life? I know my grandpa wouldn't have wanted that (and my mom knew it, too). I could see the amount of pain he was in whenever I would visit him. He didn't deserve this. ._.

The day before his death, I saw him mouth "I love you" to me (he couldn't speak), and I cried a little after that. That was the last thing I saw him say to me, and he would always want someone holding his hand when he was in the hospital. I understood completely, because if I was in his position, I would want someone to hold my hand for that reassurance and connection, too.

My grandpa is now painless.

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Steverick · 61-69, M

You have my sympathies buddy. There comes a point when a life simply isn't living anymore. Both my parents died within six months of each other this past year. Neither was living the life they would have wanted: Dad had Althzeimer's and mom had congestive heart failure, renal failure, mocular degeneration, etc. I was with them both when they died which was a blessing.

You'll always have the memory of your Grandpa. He really is a part of you, without him, there'd have been no you. He clearly loved you. That's something you can always hold onto.

Whatever your beliefs, his body is gone but his spirit lives on, always. I believe in heaven and a better life to come. He's not in any more pain - he has a knew everlasting body where there is no more sorrow and no more pain - non corporeal. Heaven.

Peace.

BlackBloodDemon · 22-25

Thank you.
I give you my sympathies, too.
I'm sorry about your parents.

lizzy96 · 26-30, F

💔😭, Sorry for your loss. I still remember when my grandpa(dads side) passed away, after falling twice in the bathroom he became paralyzed, he could move his hands a bit but he couldn't speak. My dad was at India at the time of my grandfather's death (December 2010), my mom brother and I were scheduled to go to India after the holidays started but he passed away and we had to move up the tickets.[sep] My other grandfather passed away when I one so I don't remember him

BlackBloodDemon · 22-25

@lizzy96 You have my sympathies

lizzy96 · 26-30, F

@BlackBloodDemon but at least now all are grandfather are living pain-free. My grandfather's death hit me pretty hard since that was the first death in my family I remember and could comprehend. Thank you

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