Is really there any way out?

I actually just posted on this topped few days ago.

"I don't believe in quantity over quality of friendship. You can't measure how many friends you have by how many you collect.

The same can be said about family too. While they may be within your family by blood or marriage that doesn't make them family. Their actions, how they complement your life and their good character defines if they are friend, family or foe. 

That is why I am very selective of who I allow to get close to me and who I allow to have any part in my life.

Because the truth of the matter is, no one has the right to be in your life. That is a privilege you grant them. No one has the right to be in your life by default either. 

If you're a friend then be a friend. If you're family then be family because that privlage someone has given you can be revoked at any time.

So yes, be selective of what company you keep."


Cut the toxicity out of your life, even if it is being caused by people you love. It doesnt matter if that person is someone you consider to be a friend. It does not matter if it is your brother, sister, aunt, uncle, cousin, mother in father or a grandparent. If they are the source of toxicity in your life by how they live theirs and treat you or other people wrongly then it is best for both you, your sanity and them.

You aren't responsible for anyone else actions but your own. You are not responsible for straightening out their lives. That is only something that they can do if they realize the toxicity and turmoil it causes in their life and in the lives of those around them or that have been.

You don't have to be an ass or a jerk to do what is responsible for all involved. Make a plan for your "out". Finachally where your going to go and once there get out. wish them well and live your without toxicity of others holding you back, without it clouding your conscious and without judgement of feeling guilty for doing right and being responsible for yourself.

When you are at-home in you, then your inner stability is set.
These 2 life tools will anchor you in.
A. Your love of self
B. Your worth of selfj

Your self worth is your life job for you. Then when people behave towards you, you won't topple over. Life shit is not avoidable, it's what you make it mean. If you mull over what people say or do, then you keep the angst going, you feed it.

The best gift that you give you -is peace of mind. To daily meditate will help you achieve this state of mind. Mind silence is Gold, then when shit happen, you won't trap you in your mind replay the events that occurred , you move on.


When you fill you up from within, then toxic people will be seen straight away, your radar won't attract them, as you know your true worth, your worth of self.

Is it a work problem a relationship problem, or something else, it's hard to say unless you know. Work I usually just deal with the mess and go on about doing my job, not the other person job, a family problem isn't to much to do except distance yourself from the problem ones, especially if they don't listen when you have something to say. A girlfriend or boyfriend, if you in love with them you try everything you can possibly think of and make things better, if the love is one sided there no need in wasting your time with them, there going to use you up and move on eventually, better for you to leave first, friends I didnt mention, there are many kinds of them to, I can only say that if you enjoy the friendship keep them, if you feel like crap seeing them coming, that's not a friend it's a headache waiting to happen. Good luck and I hope what I said helps some
Rick

If you've only made one mistake that seems to have fucked up your world, you haven't yet made your share of mistakes. Onward!

And by the way - 360 puts you right back where you started. ;) Try some 180s. Good luck.

Make new options. We start with nothing. We can lose everything. But we can always begin again; somewhere new, same place ... doesn’t matter

Number 3 You have your whole life ahead of you. Be bold. Change it now. I wish you the very best. Remember, you deserve a better life.

No. 3. Because
Sometimes, you just got to say, "What the fuck!"

Right now, I just feel like escaping from all this, hide in some corner and hibernate.

Don’t ever give up and learn by your mistakes!!