What is the purpose of this life, why do people have kids?

The life can be blessing or pain,full of trials and turbulations.

I still wonder what is the purpose of this life and why do we have kids...

I know most women feel pressured by the society and hense it is transfered over to men...so you become an adult in college or work,are you dating yet? No shit lets get you hooked up,are you engaged yet, when arr you getting engaged,engaged, awwa...how beuatiful is your ring,i am so jealous... when are you getting married,married,aaw. Are you pregnant yet? No,trying? No,waiting? Is everything okay?did you see anyone?
Pregnant, aawa,how is it going? Delivery,are you gonna have a 2nd one, oh when? And it is never ending...

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Serenitree · F

I think I know what you're saying. But in my case, from the time I was very young, all I ever wanted was to be a mom, and be as good as mine was. She made it all look so easy and fun. I got what I wanted. I became a mom. Nowhere near as easy as my mom made it look, and I fell far short of my goal of being as good as her, but I [b]was [/b] smart enough to let my kids spend lots of time with her and my dad, to know what it could be if it was done right, by people with no mental illness.

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@Serenitree i have heard from many females this,grew up watching girls just graviting towards dolls where few were tomboys like.

I am sure you must be an amazing mom,do not kill yourself,our lives are never the same. I am gald your giving your kids the opportunity to spend time with grand parents and learn from them.

Both marriage and parenthood are NOT easy, many of us grow up seeing how our parents,grand parents and other around us intereact but our lives still suck at times as we go thrus the same shit again. Often marrige sucks the blood and soul out you.

After my life,my daughter was born I once asked my dad if there was manual on how to raise a child and he just looked in my eyes and said nothing and i promised myself i will be the best father i can and they would not see my fight and yell with their mom and will never see a broked family...i was soo darn wrong...so wrong.

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@jackson55 that is soo true.

Serenitree · F

@aaaabbbb I [b]was a tomboy. [/b] most of my friends, growing up were boys and I ran and climbed trees and fences and wore boys sneakers because they were more comfortable. I wasn't much of a doll kid. I preferred reading and my mechanno set, for indoor play and more active things outdoors.

I just knew that the best thing a girl could be was a mom, and if I could be like mine, I'd be great.

And I was right. All through my crazy years, the times in psychiatric wards, attempted suicides, she never chastized me. Simply let me know that my room would always be there when I wanted to come home.

P. S. I didn't kill myself, obviously, and now I'm a great grandmother and my grandchildren and great grandchildren are unaware that Nana spent a lot of years loony. I'm okay, at last.

SW-User

To see how much we can endure on our way to the grave?

aaaabbbb

@SW-User that is very well said, smart answer...i am impressed.

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

No one has ever felt the pressure so great as to think of me as a viable option.

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