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So upset w my boyfriend

How can you make someone change something they do?
NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F
You can’t change someone.
Mermaid · 22-25, F
@NewBeginnings7790 good point! Thank you 😊
NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F
@Mermaid Admittedly there are times I forget but I’m trying to be stronger about it. Good luck!!
Mermaid · 22-25, F
@NewBeginnings7790 thanks! And stay strong 😊
Miram · 31-35, F
What is he doing?

In most cases, you deprive them of sex.
@YouCanCallMeDan I guess I'm one of the exceptions. I'd take sex over having control of someone any day. Sex gets you mind shattering orgasms. Having control gets you wrinkles.
YouCanCallMeDan · 41-45, M
@EllaDisenchanted most women I’ve met see being submissive as a weakness. I blame feminism
@YouCanCallMeDan The same way people see being quiet as a person being stupid. But that just means most loud people won't understand how to deal with silence.

Being submissive, in any sense of it, isn't weakness but being able to fit a situation and overcome instinct. What's that old proverb that a maple is weak and breaks in a storm but a willow that bends is the stronger for bending while facing the wind. Something to that effect.

I also would put a good amount of blame on feminism and confusing loudness for strength.
purplepen · 51-55, F
Just tell him how you feel and ask him to change it. Everyone asks people to change a few things as far as I know.
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Mermaid · 22-25, F
@purplepen thanks, but I want him to want to change it.
SW-User
you can't really, they have to want to change.
Mermaid · 22-25, F
@SW-User you're right:( how can I make him want to
You can't change someone. Until he or she has a turn of heart. Nothing anybody does will make that person change his or her own ways no matter what it is, unless the heart changes and remorse
Mermaid · 22-25, F
@TickleTortureYouUntilTears I guess imma start praying then lol. Thank you
@Mermaid Prayer is powerful. Good luck to you, with whatever it is he saying to you or doing to himself or not doing or doing to you
Mermaid · 22-25, F
xSharp · 31-35, M
you like him the way he is, otherwise you would not have dated him,

if you want to learn how to change him its because you want to control him,

which means you dont want a boyfriend, you want to babysit. lol
Mermaid · 22-25, F
@xSharp hm good point:/
You don't make ... you motivate.
Mermaid · 22-25, F
Ayy that doesn't apply in this instance but that's a good one lol @SomeLikeItHot
@Mermaid
I don't know your situation so I won't pretend to. It worked as a HS teacher back in the day.
SW-User
you want him to stop doing it?
Mermaid · 22-25, F
@SW-User yeah 😭
KimmyGary · F
is it drugs?
Mermaid · 22-25, F
@KimmyGary no haha
KimmyGary · F
@Mermaid well thats good

 
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