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What’s your advice to me regarding leaving parents house ? Please read below

So my father hit me today. I am 21 years old and an only child. In the past few months I’ve been longing to be independent and just do things on my own and am tired of being disrespected, gaslighted, being called names and not being heard even though I pay rent, go to work, do chores, pay my taxes, go to school.

He isn’t the perfect father. He used to hit me and abandon me on the streets when I was younger and I believe that this is why I need to leave. I’m not happy living with him due to those inner child wounds coming back every time he yells at me.
But yet I know he did his best to raise me.

I believe it’s time to leave now even though he threatens to say that if I leave I will never talk to him ever again. I believe it’s time I earn my own self respect. So what advice would you give to me on my journey out of the house? Thanks :)
SW-User Best Comment
He hit you today and he hit you in the past...then this won't be the last time unless you make it the last time by leaving. Your best bet is to move out now before the violence escalates, if you have the means of doing so. Best of luck to you!
Nadya2000 · 22-25, F
@SW-User thank you love 😊

texasborn89 · 31-35, M
Sorry that happened to you. I'm about to move out of my parents house too. As much as I love my parents I cant live with them anymore it's affecting me mentally. My dad will complain about the stupidest and petty things that don't even matter 🤦‍♂️.
Nadya2000 · 22-25, F
@texasborn89 aye congrats 🎈 Keep going 🙏😊
texasborn89 · 31-35, M
@Nadya2000 thanks it's just time. I'm nervous and excited about it. I just know I cant go back to living with them
1490wayb · 56-60, M
when you do leave give him a sample of what he dishes out
SW-User
It's time to leave and not look back. That's an abusive home and should not be tolerated. I guarantee, after a bit of adjusting, you'll begin to see a big improvement in mental health.
Nadya2000 · 22-25, F
@SW-User yeah a part of me tells me to stay, but I know that it’s due to all the manipulation. Thank you 🙏
SW-User
@Nadya2000 No problem. It's hard to get out because of victim conditioning, but once you get out and adjusted, you'll clearly recognize that it was just that -- conditioning.
Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M
If his best raising you was hitting on you and abusing you that is pretty sad!
If I were you I would leave and never look back!
If it were my father I would tell him to kiss my ass goodbye...
SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M
If you have the resources, dear, do it,, if he hit you, that's all the answer you need?
Nadya2000 · 22-25, F
@SilkandLace2 thank you love.
SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M
@Nadya2000 I pray I'm just echoing what you already know to be true in your heart and mind, trust yourself girlie,
Nadya2000 · 22-25, F
@SilkandLace2 I will. Will look at these posts to keep going .
SW-User
Leave for your sanity sake...you deserve a happier life.
His decision are his and you are not responsible for them.
walabby · 61-69, M
Move out as soon as you can afford it. Failing that, take karate lessons and the next time he lays a hand on you, kick his head off...ish... !
chuck7882 · 61-69, M
There is no excuse for him hitting you - ever. He is an abuser and the sooner you get away from him the better.
1490wayb · 56-60, M
go farfarfar away
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
Save your money so you have enough to comfortably move into your own place.

Be sure to set healthy boundaries once you leave.

Sounds best to not give a lot of notice about your exit. Seems that’ll only make things messier or more heated.

Remind yourself that you deserve to live somewhere positive & safe.

We can love our families & still need distance.

 
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