I Never Want A Bad Relationship Again

THIS IS A LONG STORY! But I feel I need to get this off my chest and out of my head. I finally got out of a bad realationship. Being single, hard working, friends called me bubbles. We all went dancing once a week. They told me when I showed up everyone laughed and had a good time and I was very loved. Bottom line is I was living life and and was receiving a lot of male attentions. I was just not happy with the men I dated. Later down the road a friend made it clear he was in love with me. I was not interested like that and one day I thought ? What’s wrong with me here’s a man who loves me with all his heart and I won’t give him the time of day why? He wasn’t my type physically but decent looking always dressed nice and smelled good, appeared to have a heart of gold! So I decided to let him in my world. We became such great friends I couldn’t believe it. He was a widow with 7 kids now all adults. Here’s what happened!
I realize now the problems with the kids and family are of two things. One is, this is Truely the meanest family I’ve ever been around or seen in my life. The other is my boyfriend always made things worse by lies and not standing up for me. Compatibility wasn’t a problem between him and I. It was other issues. All his kids and his siblings taught all the time a lot of drama and they often tried to drag me in it. WELL ! Let me tell you it was a lot for me to decide to jump in with both feet and give up everything for this man! Knowing I may be his caregiver one day. He’s a kidney recipient that only lasts so many years, and blind in one eye.
You can’t tell he’s blind in one eye however, he can’t drive . The transplant was about 8 years ago. So I knew living this person had to be true and for the right reason Incase he lost all eye sight or died from kidney failure.
You would think the kids would be happy to have dad have someone living in his life, he’ll no!!
I was told from the get go 4 years ago from one daughter I was just a now thing not a forever thing as she cornered me in the house. She told me living with her dad I will not have a lock on the bedroom door, the kids will come and go without knocking first, and the master bath in our bedroom will be used by other family members when there? Omg!!! After she left my boyfriend put a lock on the bedroom door, told the kids to call before coming over, and our bedroom was off limits to every one. Well it caused such a problem they hated me more. Every function involving him and the kids I was not invited. After awhile things got worse. One son didn’t want me there he could not deal with dad having a live in girlfriend and caused a big fight because he was abusing his father it almost became physical and I stepped in and asked it to stop! The son threatened to have me beat up if I didn’t mind my own business. IT was his fathers house for gods sake !!!So I left for the night and they threw all my stuff out of the house. I called the police and everything was put back. My boyfriend apologized somehow making amnends with me. As time went on I was left alone at home unless we went somewhere together. One day I went to lunch with a girl friend and I hadn’t answered my phone with in two hours so he hunted me down where I was. My girlfriend was shocked and so was I. The more time went on the more control continued, I explained to him I’ve done nothing wrong and I’ve always been nice to the kids so there’s no reason for Any of this? I felt so picked on so abused. There too much to write about. But my boyfriend allowed these things to happen and one thing his one daughter and I agreed on is that her dad was a pathological liar! I had to deal with that too.
So here I am living someone who’s a liar, has disabilities and for some sick reason I thought it mattered to him and his kids. It was not healthy for me to be in that house. One night he drank too much and caused a fight over it from me saying something about his drinking. I can’t and won’t tollerate this behavior. Right after the one daughter had a bday recently everyone was invited including his son’s New live in girlfriend! So it’s ok for the son but not his dad to have a live in girl friend, again I wasn’t invited! I sat home all night thinking about this.
After a few years not everyone has to like me but I deserve respect! People who know me were shocked and I’ve never had anyone dislike me?
So I decided I’m out. I gave my all and my heart to someone regardless of disabilities or possibly not living much longer and I was spit on!!!
He still calls me like we never had the break up conversation and I live in another state?
His messages are sarcastic like I did something wrong or how dare I not call him back?
Patience, kindness, and respect in all relationships goes along way. Im happy to be free and well honestly this was a big mistake!
Not everyone responds to a caring loving person there are some out there that suck it in but don’t don’t give back. I don’t want to be in an abusive relationship. But it feels good to say I made a mistake and I’m moving on. I have a lot of love to give but it must wait for the right and deserving person. Live and learn.