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Would you consider this a "hyper aggressive email" after being told your bonus would be reduced
My boss's boss called me into a meeting a couple weeks ago to explain by jumping into a new position my bonus would decrease (after already jumping into the postion). she explained it in a really complex way - putting numbers all over the board. I was sure I understood it as a reduction in my bonus. She even seemed disheartened telling me. I was so dissapointed, verified with supervisor if he in fact heard it the same way. He said he did, I should express my concrns with that lady - so I did through the below email. Was called in today, told it was "hyper aggressive, that I should be lucky no one else has seen it etc, never send an email like this again (just giving you advice this type stuff could affect your career moving forward), I would never send an email like that to my boss" type stuff And was also told I misunderstood the original conversation - my pay is not going down. Now apparently have a huge raise coming. Please read the below email. Do you agree it was hyper aggressive? I asked her if she should could tell me how it was aggressive and she didn't really have a way to respond.. (and she seemed irritated that I even asked her to specify how" she just said "listen the point is you need to not do this in writing, you need to have a conversation with me about it first" I said okay and I'm sorry I will make sure to moving forward. I'm sorry if it can across as aggressive I certainly didn't mean to do that.

Can someone give me some thoughts on this? How will it affect me moving forward with her? Is the below email that bad? Or would you say maybe she just didn't like being challenged? Will it blow over. Have I trained myself with this whole drama.


Dear big boss,
"Hope you are well.
Wanted to touch base here on an a couple of things here.

I'd like to revisit our conversation from Tuesday at some point. I was very disappointed to find out about a reduction in the original bonus structure I was offered (by switching to Sales Development.) I'm very much second guessing the opportunity, would almost like to consider not taking it because of this.

Respectfully, I want to point out that over the past few months I have taken on a lot of new challenges (when almost no one was willing), written SOPs/how to's, diligently trained others, taken almost double the amount of inbound calls as anybody else on the team , found more indoor equipment opportunities (141 that have come to fruition, that I can track) than anyone, maintained my numbers for renewals (often while doing 2-3 times the amount of what's expected), taken on 3 new markets for Sales Development and lastly put us in front of many new prospects, some that we've often had challenges getting in front of. (Listed major clients)

I was just really shocked to hear if anything that my eligibility for bonus would be reduced. It's truly demotivating and disheartening.

I very much don't believe any person would be eager to jump from Inside Sales to Sales Development if that is the real process (a decrease in bonus). At the very least, it should be linear (in my opinion).

Other than an Opportunity Meeting with so and so at 10am I am free. Please let me know if you have any availability to discuss.

26-30, F
10 replies
Jun 7, 2017
Brassm0nk3y · 26-30, F
Typo- have I tainted myself, not trained
goagainsttheflow · 22-25, F
Your e-mail didn't have a negative tone at all. Your boss was overreacting, refused to understand that you were misunderstood, and was rude even after your apology. How rude!
Brassm0nk3y · 26-30, F
@goagainsttheflow: thank you so much for responding. So glad I see it this way too. Sucks that she saw it differently but is what it is.. nice to know someone sees it like I do too.
Pherick · 36-40, M
Thats not hyper aggressive at all. It seems very much like you wanted clarification and were abit upset at the seeming loss in pay. I think you handled it very well.

My boss did similar shit to me once, gave me a "needs improvement" because of a very specific event on my yearly review. When I ask what I could have done better he just shrugged and said, "I don't know, but I wanted it done better".

NOPE, I sent that to HR. If you are going to have a specific event and want more, you need to be able to tell me what you wanted. HR made him remove it.
Brassm0nk3y · 26-30, F
@Pherick: really appreciate the reply. Nice to relate to your story. It's crazy how boss's are so quick to jump to action/not think before labeling situations. What a crappy Thing for them to not be able to actually specify. Cool that HR had your back.
Pherick · 36-40, M
@Brassm0nk3y: Thanks!

I don't think you have tainted yourself, just hope you don't have to work with your current boss for too long, she sounds ... "interesting"
Brassm0nk3y · 26-30, F
Amen. So true. Thanks lol
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it sounds like you need to do your best to punt on this job and leave as soon as you can.
1stexhub · 51-55, M
I worked for a company years ago salary car expenses and commission on the first million in sales, they decided after you sold a million to cut your commission in half on the next million because they gave you so much upfront on the first. 2 months later I had a new job told them to come pick up the company car and they couldn't understand why.
Brassm0nk3y · 26-30, F
Unfortunately I've seen this happen a lot. Companies are so freaking shady/horrible sometimes. It makes you wonder why with high turnover being such an expense these days@1stexhub:
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