I Am a Bit of a Hermit

@Pherick Haha, sometimes that's good though! I get sick of thinking about my own problems so it's nice to hear other people talk about stuff for a change. :-)

@stormaewish Oh no, you replied, its all over for you now. I did warn you ..

@Pherick Haha! 😆

@SW-User Yeah it can! I'm definitely more used to being a hermit than a socialite at this point. 😆

Haha me too!! 😂🤦‍♀️@stormaewish

@BlackClapTrap Right? Talking is definitely getting harder as time passes. I often immediately regret what I've said to someone...and start thinking about how it could've been said better, or just not been said at all. This has gotten to the point where I actively choose to say nothing sometimes. It just seems like a wiser, safer choice, though it means I don't really contribute as much as maybe I should to conversations.

I know what you mean. I'll be pleasant with people...but I now expect/assume none of my socializing goes anywhere so I don't delve deeper with anyone about anything anymore.

Haha, I actually say the same thing. I talk about nothing, too! It feels like nothing sometimes, especially when those I talk to don't really have any response...it feels like I was just saying something really boring to no one. About nothing! Haha. At least playing off their stories, you hope you're making them feel good and listened to, I suppose. I am also like that with the one friend I have.

I definitely enjoy the hermit life. I think the message of "socializing is good" got stuck in my head somehow, so every so often I try to force myself to socialize even though I'm never sure what good it does for me personally.

That's a good simile for friends. It's certainly true. Friendship is so tricky and nerve-wracking.

@stormaewish You do have to be careful though. If you lock yourself away from other people you can become very comfortable. Then it becomes difficult to get out and interact with people.
I am glad that at least you are being social here.

Do you have any hobbies or interests?

@Hanging2 That's what I'm afraid of! Thus coming back on here after a couple years of break haha. And i still socialize with family at least. I definitely worry about becoming a total recluse, though, so I'm hoping to break out of my shell a bit more these days. Maybe I'll look for some local Meetups soon or something.

Yeah, I enjoy food/drink/cooking, health/fitness, knitting/crochet, gaming, learning, etc. Lots to choose from!

@stormaewish When I was going through my dark period, I realised that I had to do something. I like trivia so started to go to trivia nights and joined a group who were short of players one night. Well they actually roped me in.
Anyway, 10 years later, I still catch up with them once a month to play trivia at a pub in Port Melbourne.
The point I am making is perhaps join a group. My theory is that if you do good things with good people then good things happen.

@Breeze60 Yeah! Both sides have their benefits. I guess I'm kind of looking for more of a balance between the two.

@philly9501a The most socialization I get with people is not deep or interesting, and I can't really make friends well.