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I Love My Parents

My father will be 75 this year. I feel closer to him even if I love him and my mother the same. I see him decaying in the last months. It is getting harder for him to walk long distances. His memory is getting much worse. And probably as a consequence of this, his mood is much worse too. He is too closed in himself. He does not realise my mother has needs too. Every time I go visit them I can feel the tense atmosphere and listen to their mutual recriminations.

I cannot take sides. Both of them are right in their complaints, but as their son it is hard to see how they just focus on each other's negative traits.

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novembermoon · 51-55

It is not easy. It is hard being sandwiched between two people. It can get awkward. And the fact that they are getting on in years makes it sad too.

Cierzo · M

@novembermoon That's the saddest part, to see they are getting old and their health is not as good as it used to be.

I realise how different my parents are. I wonder how they have been able to be all those years together. I am sure there is affection between them (I do not dare to say love), but I cannot have thinking if they have been really happy, or they have had to give up on really being themselves. Many questions that will never be answered.

sspec

@Cierzo Am sure you know that attachment and abhhorence are just like day and night.

novembermoon · 51-55

@Cierzo Mom just told me her generation is different from mine. When they were unhappy, they just went on with life, the thought of leaving the marriage never crossed her mind. It was unthinkable to her. I think she really gave up too much.

Cierzo · M

@novembermoon True. They gave up too much. On the other side, now many couples cannot take anything.