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I Love My Parents

My father will be 75 this year. I feel closer to him even if I love him and my mother the same. I see him decaying in the last months. It is getting harder for him to walk long distances. His memory is getting much worse. And probably as a consequence of this, his mood is much worse too. He is too closed in himself. He does not realise my mother has needs too. Every time I go visit them I can feel the tense atmosphere and listen to their mutual recriminations.

I cannot take sides. Both of them are right in their complaints, but as their son it is hard to see how they just focus on each other's negative traits.

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SW-User

So sorry to hear that you are going through this bro, it’s really a hard and very awkward situation to be in.

Cierzo · M

@SW-User It is really awkward and hard to listen to one of them venting about the other. I don't really know what to do. I even thought of visiting them less often, but I am afraid if I do that they could blame each other, and I would just make things worse.

SW-User

@Cierzo the best thing to do bro and for both sides, just say to each of them if they bring up the rant about each other “ I appreciate being there for you but the quarrel between you and the other is between you and the other and I don’t want to be dragged into it” they may not like the response but they will respect it and acknowledge it afterwards. It’s not fair on you to be put in that “choosing sides”situation.