I Need Advice
Hey everyone,
If you actually read all of this thanks in advance 馃挄
So I'm the type to live in my head quite a lot. So it would be good to get some opinions of others , maybe some have more experience or just see things from a different perspective.
So I'm married and have a 5 month old baby. My husband doesnt help with the baby, I rear him basically myself. All he does is get milk or nappies and that is with money that he doesnt earn (aka government)
He stays out. Alot. Several hours daily. ( if hes not working ) We dont do much together, I am alone most of the time. I made a lot of sacrifices to be with him and they included moving away from family and leaving a lot of friends he didnt like. On his days of, I am the one initiating outings ( before all the craziness went down) he never initiated anything. He initiates things with his friends, plays online games with them. I told him to get games we could do together as a family, I tell him to spend more time with his daughter. It doesnt happen. He says he will but no results. We dont have breakfast,lunch or dinner together hell eat out with his friends most of the time. It seems like he is perfectly fine if we dont eat together like normal couples do , it's okay if he spends more time with his friends then he does with me and his daughter. I dont feel like a priority to him the way he is mine , I feel like he has more importance in his friends.
So now it his day of and I did not ask to do anything, it didn't happen. He has been out for about 5 hours straight and I feel so miserable and alone. I dont depend on him to be happy, I have hobbies and I enjoy my alone time. At the moment I am not looking to make any friends as I feel I dont really need them to be happy but I should at least get the same from him as I put in,yes. Or am I just overreacting ? Any insight would be greatly appreciated
If you actually read all of this thanks in advance 馃挄
So I'm the type to live in my head quite a lot. So it would be good to get some opinions of others , maybe some have more experience or just see things from a different perspective.
So I'm married and have a 5 month old baby. My husband doesnt help with the baby, I rear him basically myself. All he does is get milk or nappies and that is with money that he doesnt earn (aka government)
He stays out. Alot. Several hours daily. ( if hes not working ) We dont do much together, I am alone most of the time. I made a lot of sacrifices to be with him and they included moving away from family and leaving a lot of friends he didnt like. On his days of, I am the one initiating outings ( before all the craziness went down) he never initiated anything. He initiates things with his friends, plays online games with them. I told him to get games we could do together as a family, I tell him to spend more time with his daughter. It doesnt happen. He says he will but no results. We dont have breakfast,lunch or dinner together hell eat out with his friends most of the time. It seems like he is perfectly fine if we dont eat together like normal couples do , it's okay if he spends more time with his friends then he does with me and his daughter. I dont feel like a priority to him the way he is mine , I feel like he has more importance in his friends.
So now it his day of and I did not ask to do anything, it didn't happen. He has been out for about 5 hours straight and I feel so miserable and alone. I dont depend on him to be happy, I have hobbies and I enjoy my alone time. At the moment I am not looking to make any friends as I feel I dont really need them to be happy but I should at least get the same from him as I put in,yes. Or am I just overreacting ? Any insight would be greatly appreciated
