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We don't 'click' with everyone.. [I Will Share My Thoughts]

How impossible that would be.
Sometimes we just get someone, and they us.
We're on the same page, mostly understand each other,
our personalities mesh well.
We click.

Other times personalities clash, we're out of sync, we struggle to understand each other.
Or we sense more the underlying versus the complimenting surface.
Instead of trying to force it, or making out like they are to blame or jealous, or blah...
Why does it have to be someone's fault? Wouldn't it be better to have the discernment and grace to accept we just don't jive.

Or do we need to be liked by everyone or think we can like everyone? Surely not. Compassion and common decency, yes. But..

"[i]An unhealthy desire to be liked by everyone is indicative of struggles with low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence. The prevalence of social media in today’s society only exacerbates these struggles. People on social media literally compete for likes, thus increasing the potential for inappropriate or damaging behavior by those for whom being liked is an unhealthy need. Not achieving what they perceive to be the right amount of approval — especially through social media — can also lead to worsening psychological issues like depression or even suicidal thoughts.[/i]"
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P.S. But a healthy relationship or click, can still have disagreement. Agreeing with everything isn't the same as clicking.
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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F Best Comment
[quote] Why does it have to be someone's fault? Wouldn't it be better to have the discernment and grace to accept we just don't jive. [/quote]

It would be sooo much better if people let the understanding that not everyone is engineered to like one another prevail over thinking that someone not meshing with them is some kind of personal attack on their ego and their overall existence. It’s become too much of a “If you don’t like me, there’s clearly something wrong with you” world and man, do the weak ones hold onto that resentment and use it in any way they can to paint you in a bad light to others. It’s like they want you to feel their pain of not being liked so it somehow takes away the sting of their’s. It’s adolescent and I feel that social media has not only given a very easy platform for that behavior to come forth, but has also tipped the narcissism and definitely the entitlement scales.

Great post and very wise words.
Magenta · F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Excellent commentary. Precisely this!
Thank you for thoughts of honest substance. 🌹
Magenta · F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart [quote]It’s adolescent and I feel that social media has not only given a very easy platform for that behavior to come forth, [i]but has also tipped the narcissism and definitely the entitlement scales[/i].[/quote] So much this.
ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart So well stated, and I agree completely!