Why are is my family mocking me for depending on my dad for a lot of things?

My relatives don’t like when I depended on my dad for everything. Even my older half sister said, “Just look for a job. A job that PAYS you. No more asking daddy for money. Be a woman and look for a job. You need to start looking after yourself and being an adult. I know you’re only 18 right now but this is a good start. Be open for options and get out of your comfort zone and start making choices for yourself. You’re not a child anymore. Stop looking at Dad to get permission to do a lot of things YOU want to do. Quit depending on him. He’s not going to be around forever and you need to open your eyes and see the reality. You may think we’re trying to fuss at you but we just want you to be an independent woman. Independent women don’t depend on there dads or everyone for EVERYTHING. That’s why we’re all trying to help you move to that step and Dad wants you to do things on your OWN. He’s not trying to be mean it’s his job to teach you just like he did with our brother and I. Start acting your age and you will get treated like an adult. Stop using Autism as an excuse and you are way more than capable to do stuff you just don’t wanna try. We may have to start pushing you but give you options.”

I can’t believe my dad went behind my back and have my family come over the house to help him get me to make steps of being a woman and doing stuff for myself. They even come over to take me places when I don’t even want to go and nobody let me know ahead of time. He ALWAYS does this. He said he’s blessed to have a family that helped them out because you can’t do it by himself he’s been a single dad all his life since my mom left.