Why is that the most nicest people get hurt the most or suffer more than mean people?
I thought it’s the mean people that suffer the most. I’ve always been a very nice person and I would do anything to help someone out But I’ve also constantly have been asked to help a lot more but I don’t have time for the stuff for myself. I remember the girl that used to hang out with I will always help them out but they don’t seem to appreciate me at all. Not one thank you came out of their mouths. Like one time one of them “forgot” that money so I had to pay for them. It’s happened a few times but there was times I told him I couldn’t do it and they got mad at me. Like during a pandemic not one of them bothered to call me to see how I was doing. Why is that every time I try a lot harder, they just don’t appreciate it or they just get pissed off at me a lot more? I end up getting hurt so much and my family has been trying to tell me that I need to stop being so nice all the time and I need to be more assertive and stand up for myself. My older sister looked me in the eye and told me directly, “You better start standing up for yourself! Stop letting people push you around and use you like that or you’re going to end up in an abusive relationship. You’re going to end up with a man that won’t respect you and you would give him the chance to push you around and no man respects a woman that has no self respect for herself!”
My dad gets upset that I don’t stand up for myself especially that I’m a young woman. He got in my face and directly said, “Stop letting people talk to you any kid of way! Don’t let a man talk to you like that. Quit being WEAK.”
It kind of hurt that my dad called me weak. I even overheard him one time talking to my aunt and uncle was about me not being able to defend myself and if I don’t defend myself I will end up abused or worse, could end up dead and I’m weak. Wow that hurts. I know was going to eavesdrop I just couldn’t help it. When I was younger a couple of my cousins bullies me and abuse me because I was different from them. I’m autistic and I get called horrible names and get excluded. They are dogs got off of them and they weren’t allowed to come near me anymore. My siblings are nice too but they’re not as nice as I am and they get respect. Why don’t I? Anyways I’m done ranting.
My dad gets upset that I don’t stand up for myself especially that I’m a young woman. He got in my face and directly said, “Stop letting people talk to you any kid of way! Don’t let a man talk to you like that. Quit being WEAK.”
It kind of hurt that my dad called me weak. I even overheard him one time talking to my aunt and uncle was about me not being able to defend myself and if I don’t defend myself I will end up abused or worse, could end up dead and I’m weak. Wow that hurts. I know was going to eavesdrop I just couldn’t help it. When I was younger a couple of my cousins bullies me and abuse me because I was different from them. I’m autistic and I get called horrible names and get excluded. They are dogs got off of them and they weren’t allowed to come near me anymore. My siblings are nice too but they’re not as nice as I am and they get respect. Why don’t I? Anyways I’m done ranting.
18-21, F