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Why do people give me a hard time about grieving?

I know I’ve been depressed for a long time because of my late mom leaving the family but I’m getting criticized for grieving over death of a loved one. I know my mom wasn’t the best but she’s my mom and I have the right to grieve but my family is telling me I need to move on and crying over her everyday is going to ruin my life and I need to be happy. One said, “Your grandmother wouldn’t want you to grieve over the good for nothing looser of a mother that chose to abandon you to have her own life do you? She would have scolded at you for that and wanted you to live life. People die. It happens and we all are.” One of my older relative said, “You don’t know what real life is. You’re too young to be doing all this grieving!”
My dad says she’s still my mom but I can’t grieve all the time. When I get a job I need to pull myself together and do my job and save it until I’ll get home.
Even my best friends wasn’t so gentle about it either. My female best friend said bluntly, “Look your mother wasn’t even a good mother so I don’t understand why you’re grieving over you. Your grandma wouldn’t like you being sad over her death right? So can’t be sad all the time. You’ve been sad and depressed LONG ENOUGH. She wants you to smile and be happy and I can’t do this with you today.”
And she just walked off and hung out with our other friends. My guy best friend comforted me and said that it was a bit harsh but what she said to me but she had a point. Being so little times gonna ruin my life and it’s gonna stop me from living a good life so I got a pull myself together but at least I’m talking to a grieve councilor. He gave me a hug.

My female best friend is supposed to comfort me but she got all tough with me and walked away saying, “Look this is a fun day and this isn’t the day to do it.” And she went an to hang out with the others. Isn’t that rude? She wasn’t like that to others when they were grieving so why was she harsh with me a lot more?

 
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