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Why won’t someone just let go of a dead person?
I mean dead means their gone! I know it’s sad but it’s the truth. My friend won’t let go of her deceased sister and it’s been six years. Why do people cry years after someone died? She bursted our crying when she talked about her sister. I didn’t wanna say get over it. I comforted her.
MrBrownstone · 41-45, M
You won’t ever understand until you are in the situation
SweetiePieLay · 18-21, F
[@1149,MrBrownstone] I have when my grandpa died two years ago but my grandma took him off of life support and I haven’t forgave her since then.
BalmyNites · F
[@1132160,SweetiePieLay] You said you want her to ‘let go’ & that ‘dead means they’re gone’ & you ‘didn’t wanna say get over it’ You don’t sound like a very nice friend - just saying
BalmyNites · F
What do you mean by ‘let go’ - people grieve in different ways & in their own time & your friend will always have the precious memories of her sister & should be able to talk about her whenever she likes
SweetiePieLay · 18-21, F
[@561899,BalmyNites] Yeah I know but it’s feels uncomfortable to be around her crying a lot.
BalmyNites · F
[@1132160,SweetiePieLay] If you feel ‘uncomfortable’ when your friend is upset, then I would say you are no real friend
SweetiePieLay · 18-21, F
[@561899,BalmyNites] Excuse me. I just said I was there for her and I have her a shoulder to cry on even though I’m uncomfortable
Grateful4you · 61-69, M
That really is extreme and sounds like she may need professional help.
SweetiePieLay · 18-21, F
[@881002,Grateful4you] I mean I’m always there for her but it’s so uncomfortable to see her cry.
Grateful4you · 61-69, M
[@1132160,SweetiePieLay] Hard to know what underlying issues are keeping her from letting go. Like I said, I think it may warrant professional help, (and I disagree that you are being "unempathetic") you obviously care.
bbylicia · 100+, F
Don't be so unempathetic
My dad died many years ago but I still miss him when I think about him
People deal with things differently
No matter how old I get it'll still make me sad to think my dad missed all of it
pentacorn · F
some grief is complicated, meaning it actually causes lingering mental health issues. sometimes, people need therapy to process and move on.
Lostpoet · 31-35, M
It was her sister I don't think people ever get over that stuff a brother or family cat I can understand but a sister; do you not have a heart?
bbylicia · 100+, F
[@780464,Lostpoet] I disagree I couldn't even understand this logic of it was a pet rat let alone a brother
Lostpoet · 31-35, M
[@1157601,bbylicia] Atleast a pet rat is cute.
LadyJ · 41-45, F
No one just gets over stuff..i lost both my parents 8 years ago and still grieve everyday for them its not a choice its feelings we have no control over
So you have never lost anyone before? Nobody ever left or died and you never got over it?
There's a similar situation going on with a friend of mine. Her dad passed away about 5 months ago and she posts pictures of him daily on FB. It's getting too much I don't get it either, if she stops doing that she won't forget him. Actually that's the issue, they think that letting go equals forgetting. Humans do forget though it's very natural plus again it's not like you're going to forget completely they of course will live in your memories forever.
SweetiePieLay · 18-21, F
[@10788,PiecingMeBackTogether] Wow I’m so sorry.
Wiseacre · F
Relationships are complicated...seems she had unfinished business.

 
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