I don't know. I think if someone gets to the point of me seeing them as my true love, it means that they necessarily match my idea of physical attractiveness , otherwise I would not have fallen for them, I suppose.
@theowl: It's alright. When you find yourself thinking of that person focus more on how much meaning and goodness they brought to you, as opposed to the more challenging aspects of the memories. But adjourn with this thought- both sides were good anyway and I'm grateful for this experience. It has shaped me to be the person I am today. I look forward to having fulfilling experiences of requited love. Basically saying affirmations. I won't get too off topic but this helps to get you to shift into positive state of mind, and being. Practice it for a little and notice what comes up. Much love and peace to you 💕
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its not that easy there was a lot of fighting. they had a dark side to them. lied a lot. fooled around with a lot of men because they dont believe in relationships. just sexual encounters. got mad at me for caller her out. that kind of ended the friendship because she couldnt take someone who seemed to judge her for her behavior.
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she became narcissistic. always putting blame on someone else for her actions or lies. its dumb really caring about someone who constantly lied or is just fooling around.
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That's a very big if, but looks have never been a deciding factor for me. As a former fat person, I realize that there's more to a person than their looks. A pretty face is a dime a dozen. A true connection is priceless
@TheLoveAge: Life throws a lot at us that we don't always know how to handle. Growth comes from having the courage to work through those things instead of running away. It's what I'm trying to do now.
But I like your strategy. It's why I'm here, honestly. I realize that to find a person I can connect with, it's a good idea to find someone with similar tendencies, and I have a tendency to spend exorbitant amounts of time online. I wanted to be done for good with sites like this one since I saw it as a time suck that was keeping me from growing, but I realize that the likelihood of finding a meaningful connection here is far better than it is out there. At least for me anyway. I haven't had too many opportunities, but I'm hoping that as time goes on that will change for me
@HalfCactus: It's why I found EP because I needed to have connections in my life. I found awesome people that I still talk to today. And met really nice people here too. I like the diversity.
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@TheLoveAge: Yeah, I spent 3.5 years on EP before it led to a bout of unrequited love and I deleted my profile in frustration. I knew from a friend I met there that this site was up, but I was hesitant in joining until about a month ago. I tried to find my way out in the "real world", but conversations are pretty underwhelming without the safety of anonymity here. I may only have one friend left from those days, but I still value those connections more than anything else I've had. I'm hoping to establish more of the same here, but I think I need to write more stories and stuff to facilitate that. Guess I'll find out soon
Basically saying affirmations. I won't get too off topic but this helps to get you to shift into positive state of mind, and being. Practice it for a little and notice what comes up. Much love and peace to you 💕
But I like your strategy. It's why I'm here, honestly. I realize that to find a person I can connect with, it's a good idea to find someone with similar tendencies, and I have a tendency to spend exorbitant amounts of time online. I wanted to be done for good with sites like this one since I saw it as a time suck that was keeping me from growing, but I realize that the likelihood of finding a meaningful connection here is far better than it is out there. At least for me anyway. I haven't had too many opportunities, but I'm hoping that as time goes on that will change for me