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How I make everyone stop seeing me as some pushover?

I'm starting to think I have to be less friendly and stop smiling so much. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Even the people I always see as my closest friends seem to take advantage of me a lot. And I feel like I just let it happen because it doesn't affect me much.

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Stark

It affects you enough to want it to stop. You stated what you’re doing wrong “I feel like I just let it happen”. Fix that.

rickfreeman15 · 26-30, M

@Stark but I also don't know how to show I'm angry with something without going overboard. I don't want to turn into a generally unpleasant person. Or maybe I'm the one assuming the way I choose to show my displeasure is too much?

Stark

@rickfreeman15 why does anger have to be inolved? Anger comes out when you’ve had enough and that’s not necessarily fair to you or the person who’s involved, because instead of letting it build up you could just tell them then that you don’t like or appreciate whatever it is they’re doing and if they’re true friends and truly care they’ll take it into consideration and remember that.

Vivaci

I understand what you mean...but I don't think you're a pushover. Think of it this way, God has made you capable of helping others when they need you. You said it doesn't affect you much....so let it be.
Coz even having the capacity to help others (monetary, physically, mentally) doesn't come easily. You're blessed and you should never doubt your good heart. Do what you can while you can...this is our purpose of life. 🤗

wakanda4eva · 26-30, F

Look em in the eye and say

bijouxbroussard · F

Is this offline ?

rickfreeman15 · 26-30, M

@bijouxbroussard yes, in real life I tend to take a lot from people because conflict stresses me out. I also don't want to show I'm angry and then blow things out of proportion

bijouxbroussard · F

@rickfreeman15 Ah, I understand. Being able to say “sorry, no” when you’re not angry will often stop things from escalating to the point that you’re feeling frustrated and used. Nip things in the bud, so to speak. 🙂

AkAtSUki · F

I know how you feel. It's like you have to punch somebody in the face in order for them to get it. It shouldn't have to go to that point though.

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