The more you care the more you get hurt.

Like Fernie said, it is bcoz of the expectations that we feel more hurt. Caring for someone is joyful, we always feel good to care, but it's the expecting them to care for us that hurts us. It's not wrong to expect that they care in return, just don't expect too much. Stay around people who care for you, or find your solace in books, music and nature like i did when i was young, and then the good friends will soon come into your life. :)

The people who do that aren't good enough to be your friends. There are others who are more worthy. Keep looking they're just around the corner.

Not all people are like this but some will be careless with your heart. You will learn to pick and choose wisely as time goes on.

Yes. But the less you care the more you get hurt in different ways. So you have to choose which way you will get hurt.

"tis better to have loved and lost, than never have loved at all"
~Shakespeare maybe?

True but if you don't care you miss out on so many little joys. It's a chance worth taking.

MysterySci ..you hit it on the head! Does it really make sense for us to expect the same back as we give? It never happens. Caring and giving with those expectations means we are doing it for a reward...not from the heart. SO, of course we will feel hurt

Only if you don't have understanding. What others do, or say. Is a reflection of them. Not of you. Being compassionate to another is never hurtful. Understand that why may not be as caring as you and forgive them. It feels better

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@JoanieNewHampshire @Flutterby9812 Thanks! I just don't know what I'm supposed to do when people abandon me or ignore me or don't reply for 2 months.

The only thing you can do, move on and forgive them with out blaming yourself.

Gosh so true! 😒 Sometimes I wish I could not have feelings at all

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but if you do not care,, you wll never know joy

MysterySci - I am glad you see the point. :)

No. Only if your expectations are unreasonable.

Snowdrops ...beautifully said!!

@Aido Well said. Appreciate it.

@SBelle Thanks.

Well, if that is the case Mystery...you need to be with people who DO care. If you mean your family...I think that is a common complaint from folks your age. I think you will feel differently about all this soon. If it's friends you are talking about...find new friends.

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@Fernie I don't know even if I can expect them to care like I do too. Can I do that? I mean can I expect that? Or I'm not allowed to do that either?

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@Fernie I never wanted a reward Fernie honestly. I just wanted them to care a tiny bit. Maybe the size of an electron?

Well yeah... But it's funny to care at times about things that will hurt, and above all, it's a good experience which you can learn from.

@Satyr yep💙