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I Do Not Know What To Do

I love him with all my heart but he’s literally going insane. Sooner or later, him throwing things at me will lead to hitting and i don’t want that. Plus my dad would be furious if he ever found out that he’s even treating me like this. Maybe I should just leave before stuff gets worse.idk
Things never get better....I am telling you from my experience. I have forgiven and tolerated my hubby coz I loved him too much and hoped that he will improve with time.

So when I say, leave him and move on to better things, I know what I am saying. Save yourself girl. Anger issues are major personality defects!!
If your intution tells you it's time to go, it's time to leave the situation. I have five daughter's who have thankfully had no issues with men. I would definitely SNAP if a man THOUGHT of disturbing the peace of one of my daughter's.
LadyGrace · 70-79
Get out. Plan well though, before you do. No warnings in this case. It will just set him off. This is serious. You must make sure he doesn’t know where you are.
DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M
Gtfo. You're 18. Now is not thr time to sacrifice yourself. Do things you will thank yourself for later. Every moment is a setup for future moments :)
@DreamCoCreators Every moment...that's deep and so very true
DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M
Thank you, we came to that moment around one of my Open Firesides, a friend and I. It seemed to fit nicely here.
LadyGrace · 70-79
I honestly think you should. They never get better and things never get better, unless they get help, but they can’t be persuaded. Is this your husband?
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Don't doubt your own judgment. Throwing things is violence. It tends to escalate and not decrease. You are in potential danger. Get away and don't go back; do it carefully because violent people get worse when rejected. I'd recommend that you leave without him finding out (if you confide in anyone he will find out) and go to a safe place. Tell your dad and he will help keep you safe. Love is not enough to keep two people together long term. This kind of problem does not go away. Therapy doesn't help because these guys are great at manipulating the therapist. Just go. You will get over him. Some partings are sad, but necessary. Take care of yourself.

And let us know how you are doing. I am sure many others on here will also feel concern.
Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M
Get out, get away, violence is violence, get away and get out,
Rhodesianman · 56-60, M
I have been checking you out and you sound lovely and the only advice I can give you is the same I would give my daughter .Dump his ass as a leopard doesn't change his spots and if a guy treats you like that its not love or respect hes a control freak and you can do better .I hope you find someone who deserves you because he doesn't .
Livingwell · 61-69, M
As a dad...dump his ass.
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Please do yourself a favor and read this book:

The Gift of Fear
by Gavin DeBecker

This is the best book about personal safety ever written. It will not bore you. It can save your life.
Just make sure you have someone with you when you break up. It seems like he needs to get himself together before he can be with you or anyone. So breaking up IS helping him.
BearDownChicago · 41-45, M
It should never lead to that. He should walk out before that happens if not you. Just even to cool both off
JP1119 · 36-40, M
If you’re afraid he’s going to physically abuse you, then yeah, you need to get away from him.
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Yea you should.you neither need or deserve that shit
Stardust519 · 26-30, F
Leave him. Do it for your own safety's sake.
Skilllickous · 51-55, M
I hope you have left him 😡
Create some distance physically. Ask him to seek some professional help. He needs to deal with his issues before he can have a relationship.

 
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