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Why is this the FIRST post in this group. Now 42 members

I was expecting to SEE many posts and comments.

I know that it is hard, it takes time, it takes some special ability to "talk to" others
in ways that they might more understand, accept and reciprocate what we are wanting to communicate.

I've had an incident on here recently, that reminded me of what a person who may be
suffering from mental illness or trauma (I felt that depression, is mental illness and I have suffered it after trauma and loss). But it is NOT GOOD COMMUNICATIONS to PROJECT our insecurities, our anger and hatred (at ourselves) and the ones who hurt us onto an innocent person. Everyone has the right to say what they like, being kind and compassionate is always a good thing. I was a poster who just asked a simple question and had the gall to share a view point because I wanted to start a conversation. NO wrong answers. I just wanted to provoke some thought.

I have a relative and a former friend, we were never close but this is how she behaved when I shared something that caused her to feel inadequate or insecure about her faith; both of them. And I am very careful to say very little to anyone new and will give a little more, if they ask.

Have you experienced THIS Communication problem, one like it or another? Want to talk about it? Let's learn how to communicate.

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Mamapolo2016 · F Best Comment

Not everyone posts or comments here for the purpose of communication. Some use it as a bully pulpit to spew their views and to silence others who think a different way.

I too think such behavior is indicative of mental illness, even if the writer sees it as humor. Possibly the most egregious instance was a comment to someone who had just received a cancer diagnosis and was very scared. The response was "You're going to die. Deal with it."

Sheer malice. The one who made that comment is no longer here, at least not in that persona.

MsAlaineEYes · F

@Mamapolo2016 I get that; it seems that some come here for a stroke of ego or for their sexual prowess. but THIS is a communication "group", I expected some communication. 🤪

That is SHEER MALICE, I agree. That poor poster with the CA diagnosis...sad.

I think the more we actually try to communicate; meaning speaking and listening, the more we start seeing ourselves and others more truly and then we can grow in relationship and feel kind toward one another; I think that is what most people would really like anyway.

Thanks for some thought, nicely written as well...💐

Mamapolo2016 · F

@MsAlaineEYes Thank you. I know I've learned a lot about 'a soft answer turning away wrath.'

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

I'm not entirely sure it's a communication issue I think for the most part a lot of people don't actually like talking anymore.
They make conversations difficult because well they just don't want to talk.

MsAlaineEYes · F

@Mellowgirl I think you are making a very valid point; but my question is "why"? Why have we made it so hard to say a few, well meaning, important words, in a timely fashion and then LISTEN and understand what is replied? Thanks for your comment; please add more if you wish, I'm listening.

Mamapolo2016 · F

The other forty-one are still editing their first post to make sure it will be crystal clear to everyone.

MsAlaineEYes · F

@Mamapolo2016 Oh the perfectionists in all of us...stalled by the inner "grammar nazi" or spell check!!! 🤪

SW-User

I believe this group was a carry over from Experience Project. They transferred the groups. If you noticed when you joined, they ask you to check off what you like (or groups that you feel you're interested in). I think people checking it off doesn't mean they're interested in posting anything themselves. They just agree with the sentiment. Or at least, that's my take on why no one has posted anything in this group category before.

Glad you choose to do so. 😊

Mamapolo2016 · F

Thank you again.

AndyH · M

Not every group has posts or people that want to talk about the topic of the group.

MsAlaineEYes · F

@AndyH Interesting. They want to be voyeurs. I get it. It's just not the same as doing it, just watching others is pretty unfulfilling. So that's my question; thanks for your thought on it.

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