Is there anyone else in a rocky relationship but also have a young child together?
It's rough and I hate when my little boy sees us fighting
41-45, M
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cycleman · 61-69, M
then don't! be the man and responsible and bite your tongue. take a great time out from whatever has you riled. take a really good look at your son and I bet if you take him out and about and help him to discover more of life and the neighborhood, you'll be feeling a hell of a lot better, in general
SupertallLeprachaun · 41-45, M
@cycleman Good old school advice there..I appreciate it
OogieBoogie · F
Ugh... Been here.
Nothing makes you feel so bad as when the light ypur child holds for you gets dimmed.
The only way is to stop fighting - which of course doesn't happen.
Young kids operate on a different wavelength than adults - you can try and hide it - but they still FEEL it.
It takes concerted effort on both your parts.... Which if course also doesn't happen!
Leave or give in?
I dunno - you find your own solution.
Depends what you're arguing avout.
For me - it was for my rights as a human...so I never gave in - it was bloody ugly.
So many regrets of what my children saw !
But.... In my case.... I didn't want them to learn that one gives up ones rights.
And that no matter how hard - theyre worth fighting for... Again and again and again.
If it's bad... Counselling.... if it's not worth the big picture.... Let it go.
🤷♀️
Best of luck man.
It makes kids feel confused and helpless.
Nothing makes you feel so bad as when the light ypur child holds for you gets dimmed.
The only way is to stop fighting - which of course doesn't happen.
Young kids operate on a different wavelength than adults - you can try and hide it - but they still FEEL it.
It takes concerted effort on both your parts.... Which if course also doesn't happen!
Leave or give in?
I dunno - you find your own solution.
Depends what you're arguing avout.
For me - it was for my rights as a human...so I never gave in - it was bloody ugly.
So many regrets of what my children saw !
But.... In my case.... I didn't want them to learn that one gives up ones rights.
And that no matter how hard - theyre worth fighting for... Again and again and again.
If it's bad... Counselling.... if it's not worth the big picture.... Let it go.
🤷♀️
Best of luck man.
It makes kids feel confused and helpless.
PoetryNEmotion · F
@OogieBoogie *polar bear hugggssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss to my dear OogieBoogie* You are free. You learned. It is okay.
OogieBoogie · F
@PoetryNEmotion feels weird now I'm out.
Peace has been replaced by a depressing calm.
I know that it's just I'm not used to not beibg on high alert and continually dealing with his behaivour... It's like coming down... I know what it is, I know that it will abate.... Just hard to deal with atm.
Thanks Poe🤗💜🤗💜🤗
Peace has been replaced by a depressing calm.
I know that it's just I'm not used to not beibg on high alert and continually dealing with his behaivour... It's like coming down... I know what it is, I know that it will abate.... Just hard to deal with atm.
Thanks Poe🤗💜🤗💜🤗
PoetryNEmotion · F
@OogieBoogie Take your time, my friend. I remember my first day after he left. The thief. I turned my music down. I said why should I? He is no longer here. I can play it as loud as I want. And I began dancing at dawn too. Took some time to relax. But it did happen. Weirdness will pass. Trust me. Always welcome, dear one.
PoetryNEmotion · F
You shouldn't argue in front of your child. Go into another room where he doesn't have to see or hear it. Was it rocky before the child? Can you sit down with her and hash it out? Try it.
Dont let the child see you lose your temper regularly...its not healthy for them developmentally..