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My brother yells at me and I get in trouble?

So, my brother is 22, and I am 20. We are at home for the summer, and my grandparents are coming to visit today. A few minutes ago, I was in the shower, singing (albeit quite loudly) My brother starts SCREAMING at me at the top of his lungs for me to shut up. See, I DON'T put up with that. You either be an adult and ask me politely, or I'm just gonna keep singing. I don't think he should be taught that anger and screaming gets you what you want. In all fairness, he apparently was sleeping, and I woke him up. (Which I was not aware of) My dad then comes and bangs on my door, telling me to be quiet. I just think it's ridiculous that my parents condone my brother's behavior, and don't reprimand him, letting him think that it's okay to yell at me. My dad even said something to the effect of: "You're the reason he's angry, so it's your fault." Upom getting out of the shower, I let my parents know that I will not be cleaning anything until my brother apologizes or at the very least gets in trouble. Am I being ridiculous? Why does he get whatever he wants by yelling, and I get in trouble for it? I just don't put up with letting people get whatever they want because they are angry and scream about it. No, be an adult. Ask me to be quiet like an adult. I'll admit, it was childish of me to keep singing, but why should my brother learn that he can scream at me, be aggressive, and get what he wants? I WILL admit that he is not entirely to blame; I just don't get why aggression is rewarded in my family.
Novaturient8141-45, F
You woke him up. I'm a grouch when people wake me up. Smh.

But he shouldn't have yelled.

Have a heart to heart with your brother. Tell him how his aggression bothers you.

Explain the situation and apologize for waking him up.

Y'all are family. Blood. You guys will have to support each other when your parents aren't around to anymore.

Try to make the time you guys have together good.

Your parents are tired. Maybe you should cut them some slack.

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@Novaturient81 We worked it out. We've just never had a great relationship, and I think all our issues come out when we fight. But either way, we worked through it and he apologized.
Novaturient8141-45, F
@MartinTheFirst That's me right there. #dontmesswithmysleep 馃槇馃槇馃槇
Novaturient8141-45, F
@marilynmichelle That's great to hear. 馃槉
SW-User
Just as childish not to clean because you're mad at your brother and you're trying to manipulate your parents to punish him the way you think you think they should... at your ages you should already be able to effectly solve your own conflicts
SW-User
@marilynmichelle @Novaturient81 I am pretty straightforward ...I don't mean to be indicating that his behavior was okay, but adults don't punish or manipulate people into doing what they want them to do, they just do what needs to be done or they get out of the situation they're in and live on their own and follow their own rules
Novaturient8141-45, F
@SW-User Fair enough. True.
@SW-User Thanks for helping. I guess I do need to learn to be more mature about it and not be so passive agressive. After all, I guess everything generally is my fault...

Anyways, my mom talked to him, and he apologized. We talked it out and he ended up helping me clean, so it all got worked out.
My parents would have yelled at the one screaming. That's so unnecessary lol
@marilynmichelle I hate it when people speak to me with an attitude. I give it back or i get childish like you lol
@issues Same!
@marilynmichelle i understand what you're saying. Unless you were purposely trying to annoy your brother, he should've just informed you that he was sleeping without screaming...i guess he didn't wanna get out bed lol.
MrAboo36-40, M
You need to be aware of the possibility that your actions can interfere with others like waking them up from sleep. So just be a little more quiet. 馃か
@MrAboo Yeah, I guess you're right.
JustNik51-55, F
I don鈥檛 think you get to fuss about his immaturity when you鈥檙e doing a fine job of displaying your own.
@JustNik Yeah, you're right. I think that's something I need to work on. I just get so angry when he gets away with things like that. But regardless, I stepped up and cleaned, and my mom talked to my brother and we talked it out. So it all worked out, and he helped me clean.
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YMITheWayIM46-50, M
I think you started it.
@YMITheWayIM So? That doesn't mean he needs to be aggressive and mean to get what he wants.
YMITheWayIM46-50, M
@marilynmichelle How'd he do that then?
@YMITheWayIM He started screaming and banging on my door. It was pretty scary, actually. But either way, my mom talked to him and he apologized and helped me clean my bathroom, so it all worked out.
SW-User
If this would of happening in my house - both of you would get punished !
Sounds like a Tennessee family
@jjoe01 Oklahoma, but still, Southern. Lol
@marilynmichelle take him to an anger management class
@MartinTheFirst I'm sure there are. I'm just not very familiar with those, I suppose, but we got it all sorted, so it's fine now.
MartinTheFirst22-25, M
@marilynmichelle Try the opposite thing you would usually do next time that happens. Be quiet and confront him face to face.
@MartinTheFirst Hard to do when I'm in the shower. :p. Lol, just kidding. But thanks, I'll try that next time.

 
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