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It sounds like things are going well
So enjoy that dint dwell in negative thought just concentrate on the good things and everything will be fine
Lucia · 36-40
@ExperienceDLT Post is from 2020. I have a feeling the issue is resolved.
TheGirl · 36-40, F
@ExperienceDLT I was a bit paranoid, but in the end that was not a good relationship for me so I ended it. I am now in another relationship where things are good. So it all worked out for the best.

SW-User
This isn't about your relationship. This is about working on you. You can't feel secure in a relationship if you have underlying trust or self esteem issues that you need to work on. 😊🤗
Lucia · 36-40
The concept that he is coming by your class to walk you home is really sweet. And I think it's one of those things that everyone here will agree shows is a strong sign he is interested in building the relationship with you.

I think a lot more people than you know feel this fear of being abandoned. Being sent back to square one in a game where you can't quite predict the immediate future - and sometimes haven't been provided with a rulebook...

If your strongest sign that the fear might materialize is that he went back sunday because he had work on monday, I think you are doing pretty good at keeping him invested :)
AuRevoir · 36-40, M
Hope you'll be okay. Sometimes I have no words for things. But if I ever do, hopefully I'll be able to encourage you more when that time comes.
Zeusdelight · 61-69, M
Hi, just read this.

Those good friends that you feel you have lost. I would try to reconnect with one or two of them and see how they see you. You feel as if you have lost them I wonder whether you have. Maybe some you have and others you have not.

You may be surprised at how some of them feel.

You seem to be uncertain in this current relationship. But he does not seem to have given you any reason. Why not trust yourself to be able to continue this relationship. The best time to change your attitude about yourself and relationships is now.

You could do it tomorrow, but then you will have wasted a day:)
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
I think you need to be open to having experiences that would contradict your negative expectations. You react pre-emptively on an emotional level in anticipation of it happening even when its going well.

I think you might just have to let the other person show you that you can trust them, you're in control of how invested you are to a degree so you have that level of control. I've been ghosted before by someone I cared about deeply and it was devestating so I know how hard it is to trust somebody, but you've gotta try to be open to it as not everyone is like the people who do things like that.
Enjoy your relationship one day at a time don’t overthink the future
Carissimi · F
You fear abandonment. Did you feel secure as a child?
I can relate all too well
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How is it going in the online relationship?

 
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