Unity101 · 61-69, F
Update on the story. Last night attempted to call my mother. Found that it went straight to voicemail. Today I tried again same thing. Also my Youngest brother and next brother up have been 'unfriended,' me on a certain media site.
Left message that I will be dropping off mothers day card tomorrow.
No response;
Texted my older brother to pass on message.
She rang: Then said something about losing my number and could not remember it. I explained that I would be going to hospital today but will be visiting her tomorrow. Mum said that my younger brother has invited her for a meal as a surprise. I said that was not true as when I texted him two days ago. He said he was going to have a take-away at his house and that I was invited. I explained that my son had invited me and mum to a restaurant.
Mum started to cry at this point and tried to blame me for the whole above fiasco. I told her I was not interested and put the phone down.
Kudos to my other brother; At least he sees the truth.
Backstory to the above.
Early on in year. We were invited to a House warming do of my youngest brother. I said to my son did he want to go. He is not young but a 34 year old man. He laid on my lap and cried and said "I don't want to go to be told I'm black and ugly."
My mother on Saturday 11th March 2017. Offered me work to go and look after her for two hours a day five days a week for uk minimum wage. I am qualified to Post Graduates level.
I was her skivvy most of my young life from 9 years old to around 18 years old. As she was a single mum as she worked full-time whilst I cooked and cleaned for not only her own children (my three brothers - older sister had left home by then). But her former boyfriends two boys. (not my stepdads). As I have previously said none of us are his.
This was classed aa training for me for when I grew up. I called it as I saw it. Having an unpaid skivvy because she could not afford and au-pair. I even attempted to leave home at the age of sixteen (this was before she married my stepdad). And she came to where I set up home and made me go back with her. Saying as I was under the age of 18 I was not allowed to leave home unless she said so as it was the law. I was naïve as I realise now it was more of I cannot afford an au-pair skivvy. I need you back at home.
So when my mother tells me right in front of the rest of the family that I should go back to cleaning for her. How do you think I would feel?
I offered to chip in the money and pay to have a carer/cleaner to help her. She said and I quote. "I do not want any other woman in this house except you or my daughters in law" I said the daughter in law you mention lives at least a 100 miles away. And the other daughter in law is working. And I ain't doing it. My husband is furious as he says it was said as an insult.
Looking at family photos,I came across my youngest brothers wedding. (whom my parents gave his bridge £6,000 towards the cost of it). They did not even pay for mine or my sisters wedding and we are the daughters! In fact I had to ask a long-term family friend of my mums to give me away at my wedding because my stepdad refused to attend. Saying he had to work.
Neither I nor my husband attended this brothers wedding because we were too ill to travel. (My husband had a heart attack at work back then and I had an operation for Cancer).
Youngest brother got married in Poland. My mother and stepdad said that if my son went they would pay for our son's hotel room. We believe he went. But for some reason I lost contact with him after the ceremony for a week.
I contacted mum and dad to see if they had seen him. They said he had gone back. No one saw him back to the airport.
When they got back I heard something about they took a mini-bus taxi from the airport to the hotel. But that someone had to take the local train service to the hotel. I am wondering whether they did this to my son. But they seem strangely tight lipped about the trip.
This was worrying for me as a year earlier my son sent me a note saying he was going to commit suicide. He went to Kenya to do it. When we asked why he chose there as we have no relatives in kenya or friends. He reply when they found his body he would be just be another John Doe over there.
So someone had made him feel so inferior he felt he life was not worth living. It is my belief that my brother (the next one down from me). And my son had an argument and he being a Black Belt 5th Dan. Beat the crap out of my son. As I have previously said we believe it was this brother that stole our endowment money (which was Being held in trust for our son). I think he 'forced,' him to sign the papers and he took the money.
As when he went to live in the same city as my son. I know he was broke as his business had failed. and that is why his young girlfriend chucked him out of their flat. I firmly believe he moved into a rented accommodation with my son and treated him as my mum treated me when I was younger.
that's why my son felt he had failed in life.
But until my son opens up and tells me the truth/ I cannot go to the Police with this information. But I think this would explain why he suddenly decided to commit suicide. I also believe my stepdad and mum know about it as I said in the previous part of the story. I heard him ask my son to 'keep quite about it.'
As I said he was ok where he was living until my light skinned (next one up brother), turned up to live in his town. So I am wondering why would my parent let our son go off alone and why are there no pictures of him at the youngest brothers wedding even in the group shots. My husband says its odd but we will ask our son about it tonight.
Will let you all know how it goes tomorrow once I have visited.
Left message that I will be dropping off mothers day card tomorrow.
No response;
Texted my older brother to pass on message.
She rang: Then said something about losing my number and could not remember it. I explained that I would be going to hospital today but will be visiting her tomorrow. Mum said that my younger brother has invited her for a meal as a surprise. I said that was not true as when I texted him two days ago. He said he was going to have a take-away at his house and that I was invited. I explained that my son had invited me and mum to a restaurant.
Mum started to cry at this point and tried to blame me for the whole above fiasco. I told her I was not interested and put the phone down.
Kudos to my other brother; At least he sees the truth.
Backstory to the above.
Early on in year. We were invited to a House warming do of my youngest brother. I said to my son did he want to go. He is not young but a 34 year old man. He laid on my lap and cried and said "I don't want to go to be told I'm black and ugly."
My mother on Saturday 11th March 2017. Offered me work to go and look after her for two hours a day five days a week for uk minimum wage. I am qualified to Post Graduates level.
I was her skivvy most of my young life from 9 years old to around 18 years old. As she was a single mum as she worked full-time whilst I cooked and cleaned for not only her own children (my three brothers - older sister had left home by then). But her former boyfriends two boys. (not my stepdads). As I have previously said none of us are his.
This was classed aa training for me for when I grew up. I called it as I saw it. Having an unpaid skivvy because she could not afford and au-pair. I even attempted to leave home at the age of sixteen (this was before she married my stepdad). And she came to where I set up home and made me go back with her. Saying as I was under the age of 18 I was not allowed to leave home unless she said so as it was the law. I was naïve as I realise now it was more of I cannot afford an au-pair skivvy. I need you back at home.
So when my mother tells me right in front of the rest of the family that I should go back to cleaning for her. How do you think I would feel?
I offered to chip in the money and pay to have a carer/cleaner to help her. She said and I quote. "I do not want any other woman in this house except you or my daughters in law" I said the daughter in law you mention lives at least a 100 miles away. And the other daughter in law is working. And I ain't doing it. My husband is furious as he says it was said as an insult.
Looking at family photos,I came across my youngest brothers wedding. (whom my parents gave his bridge £6,000 towards the cost of it). They did not even pay for mine or my sisters wedding and we are the daughters! In fact I had to ask a long-term family friend of my mums to give me away at my wedding because my stepdad refused to attend. Saying he had to work.
Neither I nor my husband attended this brothers wedding because we were too ill to travel. (My husband had a heart attack at work back then and I had an operation for Cancer).
Youngest brother got married in Poland. My mother and stepdad said that if my son went they would pay for our son's hotel room. We believe he went. But for some reason I lost contact with him after the ceremony for a week.
I contacted mum and dad to see if they had seen him. They said he had gone back. No one saw him back to the airport.
When they got back I heard something about they took a mini-bus taxi from the airport to the hotel. But that someone had to take the local train service to the hotel. I am wondering whether they did this to my son. But they seem strangely tight lipped about the trip.
This was worrying for me as a year earlier my son sent me a note saying he was going to commit suicide. He went to Kenya to do it. When we asked why he chose there as we have no relatives in kenya or friends. He reply when they found his body he would be just be another John Doe over there.
So someone had made him feel so inferior he felt he life was not worth living. It is my belief that my brother (the next one down from me). And my son had an argument and he being a Black Belt 5th Dan. Beat the crap out of my son. As I have previously said we believe it was this brother that stole our endowment money (which was Being held in trust for our son). I think he 'forced,' him to sign the papers and he took the money.
As when he went to live in the same city as my son. I know he was broke as his business had failed. and that is why his young girlfriend chucked him out of their flat. I firmly believe he moved into a rented accommodation with my son and treated him as my mum treated me when I was younger.
that's why my son felt he had failed in life.
But until my son opens up and tells me the truth/ I cannot go to the Police with this information. But I think this would explain why he suddenly decided to commit suicide. I also believe my stepdad and mum know about it as I said in the previous part of the story. I heard him ask my son to 'keep quite about it.'
As I said he was ok where he was living until my light skinned (next one up brother), turned up to live in his town. So I am wondering why would my parent let our son go off alone and why are there no pictures of him at the youngest brothers wedding even in the group shots. My husband says its odd but we will ask our son about it tonight.
Will let you all know how it goes tomorrow once I have visited.