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I Am Having Family Problems

Ok so please don't judge me it has took a lot for me to come on here at write this.

I hate my family life, my teenage daughter who is 17 as made family life hell on earth over the past 3years or more. On a daily basis she tells me I'm fat, I'm a slag, I'm a useless Mum, I can't cook, laughs cause I only work a hour a day. Recently she told her college that she was homeless and that she was at harm obviously after they spoke to us they realised there was no problem and further action was taken. I just hate her she makes my life a misery. My husband is no use he doesn't take any side but does nothing when she kicks off. She needs help but won't get any if she refuses help we can't do anything. I just wanna run away and never come back I am not in love with my husband anymore and the only reason I stay is for my son and the lack of my own money. Please help is anyone in same position xx

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hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

At 17 have her declared and independent adult and remove her from your home. It is called emancipation of a minor.

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@hippyjoe1955 my husband says she still out responsibility

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

@SW-User At 17 she doesn't have to be anyone's responsibility. Emancipation is meant for just such a case as yours. Maybe your husband is feeling guilty for having raised a 'brat' but the fact is the kid is at fault not the parent.

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@hippyjoe1955 yes she is at fault but she has no job no money I can't just chuck her out on the street

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

@SW-User And her not having a job and money is whose fault again? I know you love your daughter dearly but sometimes love says "NO".

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@hippyjoe1955 love questionable at moment I actually hate her. She had a job she gave it up for no reason

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

@SW-User Love is looking for the best for the other person not an emotional reaction you have to them. She needs to discover consequences like if you don't work you don't eat. Or if you don't work you don't have a warm house to live in. Or if you don't respect your parents you don't have a home to go to. Love is letting her experience what she thinks she wants.

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@hippyjoe1955 I'm trying hard but nothing works

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

@SW-User I understand completely. I have seen a number of homes torn apart by unruly teens. It can be prevented if the parents form a united front and work together towards a solution.

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@hippyjoe1955 that's the problem her Dad doesn't get involved unless he has to its just left for me to deal with

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

@SW-User Yeah that isn't uncommon. One parent fails the other by not forming that united front. Life is difficult and decisions are never easy to make.

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@hippyjoe1955 no xx

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

@SW-User Just know that you are not alone and there are lots of people who support you in spirit if not in person.

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@hippyjoe1955 xxxxxx