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I Am Not Good At Talking

A few reasons:

I have a different perspective than most.
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I'm not good at articulating my thoughts & perspectives (how do you articulate original, complex thoughts? It's hard that's for sure (especially depending on my company)).
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I'm interested in different things & often for different reasons than most.
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I've had many different experiences than most, many different circumstances than most.
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I don't look like most people here, I'm Asian, yet detached from Asian cultures, though others still associate me with them (or even with other Asian cultures unrelated to me) other Asians don't associate much with me either.
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I have different values than most, different beliefs, different assumptions.
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I'm socially awkward (possibly a social disorder).
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I make people uncomfortable with my adhd sometimes (though I'm normally good at controlling it, when I do actually exhibit it it can tend to irritate people or put them off).
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More, & then a combination of all these things makes for an unusual (but awesome) me.

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MsElspeth · F

Interestingly enough you've said (or rather typed) many of the things that I've always felt about myself. I have the feeling many people have the same thoughts, which are definitely valid, but are too consumed by their minds to see all the other people on this Earth who are just like them. I'm not sure if what I wanted to convey came out successfully, it is afterall after midnight for me as I type this.

Winterwanderer · 26-30, M

I don't really feel as though many people have these thoughts because, talking to people, they don't struggle with the same things, talking to people isn't nearly as difficult for them and they are vastly different from me in many different ways.

Even though people are individual, they still tend to follow trends, at least the general public does (that is why they are called the general public). I don't usually follow social norms or trends, in the many facets of my life, while most people do, at least to some extent. I don't care about the same things, I don't have the same desires, I don't like talking about the same things, I have different hobbies, in many areas of my life I find myself distinct from other people, maybe I'm bad at finding relevant social groups and stuff, but as it stands, I've met few people I relate to very much.

MsElspeth · F

I appreciate the fact you took the time to respond. Rather than proposing most people feel and think the same way as you do, I meant to say there are a few people like you in every community, society, or country, and if you gather them all together in one place, you'll realize that is a significant number of people, so you don't have to feel so alone.

I will agree it is very difficult to find people who you can relate to on every level and interest, still it is worthwhile to try looking, and at the very least you could make a real friend. Maybe they won't be someone exactly like you, but someone who genuinely likes the person who you are. I think that kind of friendship is more valuable in the long run.

I'm curious now, what are some of the things that interest you?

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Winterwanderer · 26-30, M

I do not comprehend.

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