I Want a Real Loving Relationship
Very Difficult To Find... My story goes back a few years to when I was pretty young .
Although I certainly wasn't looking for a serious relationship, just like in the
movies, I met someone that I immediately fell in love with.
We couldn't have been much different. She from the stereotypical quaint
New England town, and me from a huge major city.She was now living in that city
having been transferred there by the airline that she was a flight attendant for.
I was also working for an European International airline. That was about all we
had in common.
I sometimes think that extreme opposites create an incredible "magnetism" that
unfortunately tends to fade away in time.
It takes a lot for me to commit to a relationship, but when I do, I am solidly
involved. We were married within a short time.
It was only after that ,that things began to unravel.......
Sally was a beautiful girl, who won all sorts of accolades in High School
(Prom Queen, Most Likely to..., Class Pres. etc.)She was not a "flashy"
girl, really didn't need a bit of makeup to look pretty.
Unfortunately, to listen to her, you would think she should be wearing a bag
over her head. Absolutely NO self-esteem. This became the core of our problem.
She could never achieve happiness. I showered her with anything that I thought she would like, and gave up everything that I did that even remotely disagreed with her.
However, it was all to no avail.After a couple of years, I finally "threw the towel in".
I cannot express how disapointed and crushed I felt.
I always blamed her mother for Sally's problems. My mother-in-law was actually
a fantastic person. Her fault was in the way she raised Sally. You see Sally was
a fraternal twin. Her brother Jack was not very good looking, not very popular, and
seemingly a bit slow in intelligence. To compensate, her mother would praise Jack
for the most menial tasks, as well as constantly claiming how handsome he was.
This in itself would have been no problem, but to further stroke his ego, she would
belittle Sally to an extreme. I think the problem is obvious.
We had a amiable divorce, but I think I will always carry an emotional scar.
Although I certainly wasn't looking for a serious relationship, just like in the
movies, I met someone that I immediately fell in love with.
We couldn't have been much different. She from the stereotypical quaint
New England town, and me from a huge major city.She was now living in that city
having been transferred there by the airline that she was a flight attendant for.
I was also working for an European International airline. That was about all we
had in common.
I sometimes think that extreme opposites create an incredible "magnetism" that
unfortunately tends to fade away in time.
It takes a lot for me to commit to a relationship, but when I do, I am solidly
involved. We were married within a short time.
It was only after that ,that things began to unravel.......
Sally was a beautiful girl, who won all sorts of accolades in High School
(Prom Queen, Most Likely to..., Class Pres. etc.)She was not a "flashy"
girl, really didn't need a bit of makeup to look pretty.
Unfortunately, to listen to her, you would think she should be wearing a bag
over her head. Absolutely NO self-esteem. This became the core of our problem.
She could never achieve happiness. I showered her with anything that I thought she would like, and gave up everything that I did that even remotely disagreed with her.
However, it was all to no avail.After a couple of years, I finally "threw the towel in".
I cannot express how disapointed and crushed I felt.
I always blamed her mother for Sally's problems. My mother-in-law was actually
a fantastic person. Her fault was in the way she raised Sally. You see Sally was
a fraternal twin. Her brother Jack was not very good looking, not very popular, and
seemingly a bit slow in intelligence. To compensate, her mother would praise Jack
for the most menial tasks, as well as constantly claiming how handsome he was.
This in itself would have been no problem, but to further stroke his ego, she would
belittle Sally to an extreme. I think the problem is obvious.
We had a amiable divorce, but I think I will always carry an emotional scar.
46-50, M