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I Used to Sing

This story may not make sense to you. I can sing. But I feel like my family ruined it for me because they always made a big deal about my voice. Always putting me on the spot and making me sing when family came over. I feel like if they didn't, I would sing more. Seeing my mom cry after I would see would make me feel awkward. I'm not saying this to be modest but it's not like I can sing like Mariah Carey or Celine Dion. I'm okay but I can't sell out Carnegie Hall. I know that many people who can sing always like to show it off to everyone and take every opportunity to sing but for me, I hate singing for people. If I have to sing, maybe it'll be for a musical but I don't like to be a stand alone singer. I don't feel the rush or passion that many people feel when they sing. It's just one of these gifts that I didn't ask for. It would get me mad when my friend would sing randomly in my house and my mom would guilt me into joining with her saying that I could sing to. But I never want to. That's why it's like what Dumbledore said in Harry Potter- "It's not our abilities that make us who we are- it's our choices."

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sunsetsoareomyofavourite · 22-25, F

oh wow the last sentence. i swear i love this sentence! omg. when i watched the movie! i remember the sentence (just in the German language) till today haha.

oh yes i can understand you.

many people love to show off. i love to sing in a musical and so but not like when people ask: can you sing for me? i dont think i have like a super amazing voice. it is ok. nice to hear not more.
other people from my school are way better.

i think i can understand your feelings.

but you live for yourself and do something for YOURself so dont give up your cool talents and hobbies :).

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JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@Chloe1o: Yeah, I guess it's fun to sing with others. That way not all of the attention is on me. I feel like when [i]anyone[/i] makes a big deal about my gifts, it makes me feel like a freak of nature. Like no one can do what I can do when I know people can do better than me.

sunsetsoareomyofavourite · 22-25, F

@JewStar4Life: yes totally know what you mean. i mean sometimes i like attention but not so much and not like this.
i also like it like on stuff i worked hard on you know?

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@Chloe1o: Right. I want attention on things I want people to notice.

Local · 51-55, M

There is a feeling of pride in parents when they discover that a son or daughter has a talent. What they are doing is out of that pride. This is their way of appreciation. I know it may be difficult sometimes to cope with the demands of singing. But take it as a gesture of appreciation from them and you will discover that something that is putting you down can actually lift you up. Wish you a happy life.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

I know what you mean. And I know I should take it as a compliment that they find me talented. I just don't need them to keep pushing me. If I feeling like singing one day, I'll sing.

Local · 51-55, M

Convey this to them, maybe in a way that they apprehend it better. Good Luck and wishes for a happy life.

Ynotjenn · F

Have you played around with the Smule app?

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

I've used it before. If I used it, I think it would be when I live alone so no one would hear me and I would post it anonymously. If anyone on Facebook were to hear me, I could imagine them making a big deal and I don't want that. But maybe when I'm alone I'll use the app.

Ynotjenn · F

@JewStar4Life: I use it but I didn't link it to my FB so mine is anonymous. I sing when nobody is home. Just a thought :)

I love it.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@Ynotjenn: Yeah, maybe I should do that.

Sacron22 · 56-60, M

Very good insight - 'out choices' make us.
they are your family. tell them no.

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