I'm seriously in denial of my problems. I was venting to my friend and it was especially evident
The thing is even if I do realize I'm in denial I still think that way and I can't really let go of that way of thinking, does anyone have any advice? I don't even really know what I'm in denial of I'm just in denial
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SW-User
Since you recognized that you are possibly in denial already, let's be honest then... What are you in denial about? Do not fear the be judged or to judge yourself, just be honest. Because if can't find the problem, then the only thing I'd say is that maybe you are paranoid (no offense)
The conversation started with us talking about love. I admit to her that I used to have a crush on her and she asked me why I never tried to take it anywhere. I explained that I was afraid that like most romantic relationships it would inevitably end and I didn't want to lose her or anyone I care about for that matter so any time I felt like that I would just deny my feelings and logic my way out of them. It's like if I just tell myself all the reasons it's a bad idea then the feelings will just go away. I guess that's what I'm in denial of
SW-User
Thanks for being honest. Then maybe what makes you feel unhappy is the fact that you are not in a relationship, and it's totally normal and even though it is not as bad as not having what to eat, it's still a problem to you because it bothers you and makes you sad. I'm probably not the best person to give you advice on the matter but I should say that fearing the end of a relationship to the point of not even staring it is actually worse than actually ending a relationship. I think you should try to get over this fear of yours
Thanks so much for talking to me about it! I don't think I would've truly faced it without being able to talk about it like this. You're right this fear is more damaging than I was willing to accept and now that I've identified it I think I'm going to look into ways I can get past it. Thank you so much
SW-User
You're welcome, I'm glad this conversation could help
