I Want Friends Who Are Actually Friends

This has recenty happened to me. I thought She was a friend of thirty years. We did a lot together, I did almost everything I could that she couldn't do for her and when ever she asked. About two years ago I made the mistake and forgot to call her in the morning. (We'd been drinking the night before and we don't always call each other) so my partner (female) and I went off to breakfast and for a hike. About lunch time I get this berating phone call from her demanding that she didn't understand that I didn't call. Trying to explain, trying to appologize went no where with her. Finally I simply said I'm sorry didn't deserve being yelled at and said goodbye! Time passed and she needed something, thinking she wanted to make amends I gladly said I would come over to help. From this point on it seemed to continue in the same way. We would often call to invite her along on a hike or some activity. Sometimes she would say she had other plans (even if we did this well in advance) she always acted in consern with us when she did go along, not showing any signs of a grudge but, the invites from her were much fewer then the requests for help. Because we live in the sticks meeting others for friendship is diffecult. But another female couple moved in to the neighborhood. We got friendly because of our need and their need for doggy day care and extended dog sitting. And a friendship begin. I knew immediately my I question girlfriend would love and benifit meeting them. And for a time we just did that. The beginning of then end of our friendship I think. She spent much more time actively pursuing them as friends and left Dee and I waiting in the wings. There were a couple of instances where we actually met them out in places we used to frequent and things seemed cold. The last straw for us. Was as we ran into them as they were coming into a venue we were leaving. Their response was oh, hi, do you want to come back in for one more. (We used to always call and ask what was going on and invite them along as dud they.). Our response was "we don't want to impose, it would have been pleasent if you'd called, we would have meet you here!" It was obvious to us as it had started, she was more interested in her like kind then she was in us. And I've noticed the new friend get very reserved and disengaged from me. We planned to ski together all winter and she had turned me down the last three invites.
So much for that friendship. I don't need that kinda of highschool drama

It's who I am to want to help other people... I just don't like being taken advantage of because then that part of me starts to feel like my weakness rather than a strength.

I have 2 of them and we have been together 18 years this year nothing I would not do for those boys and vice versa I know it's not a lot but with something like this I believe in quality over quantity

Crazy to have been oblivious to such a low quality person. Usually to have that kind of love for a friend you'd have to really love them for them. Not just because they chose to befriend you.

I get the feeling but karma has a way of dealing with life

that's why I only have a handful

Yes, it is very heartbreaking.