I Dont Believe In Dating Just For the Sake of Dating
Women and men alike may often get shamed for being "too picky" when it comes to who they're attracted to, and I've never understood why. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you like. If anything, having a strong idea about the types of personalities or looks you're attracted to saves you from wasting your time. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for giving people a chance. But, if I come to realize that we don't have the same sense of humor or that your Spotify library consists solely of rap music, then I don't see a reason to continue the possibility of a romantic connection.I don't care if you're 6'4'' and chiseled like a Greek God; if we're out to eat and you're rude AF to our server, I'm already thinking about how I want to politely tell you this isn't going to work out. You tell me you're "uncomfortable" with me going out with my friends? Peace out dude.
"Oh, but he's so hot!" "He seems so sweet though!" "But you guys look so cute together!" "Maybe if you get to know him more, you won't even notice..."
That's the problem though. It's great that he's hot. It's awesome that he's sweet. But what's the point of looking cute together if we have nothing in common? If you're not vibing with someone right off the bat, why draw it out? This only creates a more toxic situation. You'll start to try and change who that person is, which is doing an injustice to both you AND the other person. You shouldn't be trying to "fix" someone into the person you want them to be. It's tempting, I know, but it never works out.
Call me too picky, too critical, too judgmental, or whatever it is you think I am. But after plenty of mediocre dates, boring texts, and confusing not-relationship relationships, I've become so much more in touch with what I'm interested in—and there’s absolutely no problem with that
"Oh, but he's so hot!" "He seems so sweet though!" "But you guys look so cute together!" "Maybe if you get to know him more, you won't even notice..."
That's the problem though. It's great that he's hot. It's awesome that he's sweet. But what's the point of looking cute together if we have nothing in common? If you're not vibing with someone right off the bat, why draw it out? This only creates a more toxic situation. You'll start to try and change who that person is, which is doing an injustice to both you AND the other person. You shouldn't be trying to "fix" someone into the person you want them to be. It's tempting, I know, but it never works out.
Call me too picky, too critical, too judgmental, or whatever it is you think I am. But after plenty of mediocre dates, boring texts, and confusing not-relationship relationships, I've become so much more in touch with what I'm interested in—and there’s absolutely no problem with that
26-30, F
