Are traps gay?

It depends on how you see them. Sure it's gay since it's a guy, but what is attracting you is (I assume) their feminine features and how they look like a girl. I think it's how the brain perceive them as girls, so basically, what is gay? Doing it with a guy or doing it with someone manly? Still kinda gay though, but don't feel bad about stuff you like.

Like pitfalls, snares, secret doors, etc.?

Thought they all were rather equal opportunity.

Yes! A trap is a man who dresses in women's clothing and makeup and appearance of woman aka a cross dresser

it's always for a friend isn't it lol

And they like men