I Got Out of a Relationship With a Narcissist
Since the post disappeared before I could comment and I thought this was valuable
The thing about narcissists is that they do feel desperation, when he tells you he loves you and apologizes he likely means it but at the same time they are very poor at correcting their behavior even if they want to. Maybe you've argued with someone and attacked them in the heat of the moment, that is every interaction for a narcissist. They are constantly spending themselves into deficit and cannot be bothered to spend anymore monitoring their behavior.
Anyway, you're allowed to feel bad for him and be apart at the same time. He's going to feel like garbage whether you're there or not. Realizing that is how you leave.
The thing about narcissists is that they do feel desperation, when he tells you he loves you and apologizes he likely means it but at the same time they are very poor at correcting their behavior even if they want to. Maybe you've argued with someone and attacked them in the heat of the moment, that is every interaction for a narcissist. They are constantly spending themselves into deficit and cannot be bothered to spend anymore monitoring their behavior.
Anyway, you're allowed to feel bad for him and be apart at the same time. He's going to feel like garbage whether you're there or not. Realizing that is how you leave.
