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What's the worst friendship fallout you experienced?

ChiyoSKL · 31-35, F
My “best” friend asked me to go to a Con with her in DC for a few days. A couple weeks before I had to go to the hospital for over a week and was put on anxiety medication and a mood stabilizer. She started taking some of my pills, but I didn’t feel bothered I knew she had a thing for Xanax here and there and my medicine was much weaker. Anyway, we get there and she takes a Xan. Still no biggie. I told her I’d buy her a drink since she payed the hotel (I paid plane tickets). She proceeds to order to margaritas and she’s not even a drinker to add to the Xanax. I had my normal one anxiety pill and a drink, but I’m still pretty spaced out and tired from the hospital stay. She wants to go to the rave and we had so much fun at the one 9 months before for my birthday so I agreed. We get there and I suddenly feel uneasy and exhausted. I told her to enjoy and I’d sit there and watch her. She got absolutely pissed that I would ruin her trip that way the same way her husband did at the lost con she went to (I had no idea). She proceeded to say I was hooked on my pills. Then when we got back to the room she started packing and was yelling. I told her I didn’t feel comfortable with how she was acting. She said if she was really violent she could hurt me if you wanted to and held a fist a few inches from my face. At that point I feel unsafe so I called my bf in SC (who was working a shift of 6-2am) and asked him to come get me. She got pissed I left her in DC alone, but that’s not what I needed after the hospital stay. I’m so grateful my bf came and got me because it was awful. Turns out her husband message me she is taking Xanax regularly now. He’s upset because he’s a recovered heroin addict, and doesn’t like that she doesn’t respect how upset it makes him. He won’t bring it up to her any more though.
Casheyane · F
@ChiyoSKL Maybe a support group can help. Just a thought
ChiyoSKL · 31-35, F
She won’t even look my way or talk to me at all anymore. That ship has sailed and with how selfish she was I can’t say I’m upset about it. @Casheyane
Casheyane · F
@ChiyoSKL Ah. Then good for you. I wish you get better friends.
Dan193 · 31-35, M
I don't want to think about something like that.
Casheyane · F
@Dan193 Same. But I'm starting to think facing it head on is the only way I can truly move on.
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@Casheyane hope u figure it out quick so u could move on and forget ze pain.
Casheyane · F
@Dan193 No, actually. I just want to understand myself and be better, use the pain for something productive. I think I can use it to improve my writing. :)
JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M
One of my close friends in high school remained a good friend of mine throughout college. We went to different schools, but we hung out together fairly often.

Upon my graduating, I was engaged to be married and he was living at home. He needed 5 years to complete his undergraduate degree. At one point, he and I had a challenging conversation about him needing to grow up. He was constantly whining about not having things in his life and would come to me to solve his problems. We patched everything up and he seemed to turn a corner.

After my son was born, I was living in a different city and he wanted to come visit me because he had business in the area. He never clarified when precisely he was going to be in town. When he arrived, he randomly called me and asked that I pick him up at the train station. I was at work. My wife was home with the baby.

I lit into him. I had had enough.

That's the last time we talked.
Casheyane · F
@JoeyFoxx Yeah. It sucks when you feel like you're being used, especially when it's done without remorse.
JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M
@Casheyane He wasn't really using me. He was just a child who refused to grow up.

He was an ok person, just lazy. I didn't have time for that kind of ball and chain in my life at the time. I needed to focus on my family.
Montanaman · M
Buddy of mine was without a vehicle, and I had just broken my right wrist, couldn't drive my manual stick shift truck, so I let him use it for a couple of months, I never got it back. Fucker wrecked it and sold it for parts. Never heard from him again. 😒😔
Casheyane · F
@Montanaman Sorry about your truck.
Montanaman · M
@Casheyane easy come, easy go.👍 thanks.
Pherick · 41-45, M
I was dating this girl, and one random night when we were out at dinner, she tells me, "You remember last week when I wanted you to come over, but you couldn't? I called your roommate/best friend and he came over and we had sex. Sorry".

That made going home quite upsetting. She called my friend when I left the restaurant and told him she had told me. So he wanted to "talk" about it when I got home.

Not much to talk about bud, you slept with my GF. I moved out shortly thereafter.
Casheyane · F
@Pherick You know, not that I've been in any relationship but I don't get the mindset of people having sex with strangers to forget loneliness. I mean, if you know the person then maybe, but... why not just eat and get yourself drunk in your favorite food and beverage and do other stuff that would not make you regret? Sorry, I can't say I have much experience but I just find it odd.
Pherick · 41-45, M
@Casheyane Thats the crazy thing too, we had been dating like a month at this point, she lived close, I saw her often. She had asked me to come over, I couldn't, I had to be somewhere the next day for work, and I needed to make it an early night.

So instead of being an adult, understanding that it was just one night and she would be fine, she chose, along with my friend, to be children.

I am sure I am probably better off without her or him.
Casheyane · F
@Pherick You are better off without them. Don't doubt that.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
My best friend of 10+ years stabbed me in the back by having 3 of her friends (complete strangers to me) move into our shared apartment while I was away on vacation. Then when I returned, the apt was trashed, and they had 2 dogs living there too, and they didn't clean up after them so it smelled like piss in there. I told her she would have to make her friends move out. She refused. So I moved out and never talked to her again.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@Pherick tell me about it. It came out of nowhere, she had never displayed any behavior like that before in 10 years. I think she had a midlife crisis or her mental health just snapped.
Pherick · 41-45, M
@DearAmbellina2113 It sounds like she snapped. Wow.
Casheyane · F
@Pherick Same thought. Not the same words but something like that
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SW-User
I moved in with a friend once to escape an abusive situation. She had her own similar situation going on in her home. She and her husband fought constantly. We all drank a lot. Eventually, she and I started fighting as well. I don't even know what it was about half the time, but it seemed our arguments brought them closer together. I finally decided to leave. We haven't talked much since.
Casheyane · F
@SW-User I hope you're in a better situation now.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
I had a friend who’s husband was being stationed in Hawaii and she needed to get her car on the ship to be sent over there and she wanted me to let her friend drive my car and follow her up there and I said no, I didn’t know the friend and I couldn’t go because I couldn’t take off from work. I never heard from her again. That was probably the weirdest thing but I never had any major fallouts with a friend.
Casheyane · F
@Keepitsimple Seems like she isn't your friend at all
NickiHijab · F
The worse ones are probably those without closure. I haven't had many of them because there's usually some reconciliation or attempt of reconciliation there. If or when there isn't? It's probably time to let go.
Casheyane · F
@NickiHijab Me too. There's always a reconciliation somewhere down the road. I guess this one's new so it doesn't feel like coming soon.
Diyanne · F
[c=#BF0080]I said to my friend not to join the 100 meter run becoz my other friend was in there. Both were good in running. This friend dont talk to me any more like she used to. I then realized I should hv never said that. I learned something from this.... [/c]
Renikari · F
Every "friendship" I've ever made.
Casheyane · F
@Renikari Not all. Some friendship, you can fallout real bad but still a part of you wishes it could last. It can't all be the same if the person you see in the mirror is someone who isn't like that.
Renikari · F
@Casheyane No, people are all the same and I’m not so arrogant that I consider myself to be better than that.
Casheyane · F
@Renikari It's your choice. But I know myself. So I can't really say I agree. I hope a better future could change your mind.
SW-User
He at my chicken nuggets when I went the bathroom at lunch. We were 7

I was heartbroken
Casheyane · F
@SW-User XD

 
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