Good question. My answer is that romance and romantic relationships are dependant on a spark, or a "flame" of passion if you will. If you want romance in your life you have to not only create that spark, you have to constantly tinder that flame. If you are not willing or able to do that, then the romance will die and turn to bitterness and sorrow.

Relationships arent magical, or destiny, you either want it and strive for it, or you don't and you suffer. It takes hard work,patience, tolerance, forgiveness,and understanding, not luck.