She gets mad because it’s har md to accept that we can’t do it all. I had a friend buy all of my kids back to school clothes recently because my husbands hours were cut back so far we’re barely making our bills but when she did that I was torn between embarrassment, hurt and extreme gratefulness. I know she was trying to help, it’s just hard to accept but I will forever be grateful to her at the same time. Your friend might get mad but as long as she knows that you are doing it out of love and not to embarrass she will be grateful. Good on you!