I Don't Have a Girlfriend
You cannot tell her that now that she is over him that your feeling hurt that she is going after a bunch of cute guys instead of going after you after you've expressed your feelings many a time. The only time that should ever be brought up is if she asks you directly about how you feel about this situation. Otherwise you need to keep that pain to your self so you don't keep beating a dead horse. You are her best friend and somebody she confides in so much that she is willing to tell you about every cute guy. You are her gay friend... sadly.
She told you after everything you have done for her that you deserve her as a girlfriend but her reason for not being able to do that was because it wouldn't be 100% not just because of him but because she doesn't think you are right for her. This should not cause pain, it should be reassure that she still wants you in her life forever and she trusts you and confides in you and that is more than enough to ask for which is why you haven't continued to stress, "hey you should date me hey you should date me."
So when she messages you about seeing or meeting another cute guy at random or on a date you don't open up that you are hurt and you don't tell her that it physically hurts your heart. What you tell her is how happy you are for her and that she deserves happiness and excitement in any for that it comes.
She already knows that you want to date her. But she has told you that is not what she wants.
Remember, her snapping at you is not an attack to you but how she communicate as she said so you need to remember that the way you communicate may be a little different and to hear it in your words you need to take a moment to recognize her's first.
This general process of thoughts began with meeting to tell you that you need to remember to be there for her and not take things personally and think about your self which is what you do quite often. Stay calm, she'll be there until the day you die.
She told you after everything you have done for her that you deserve her as a girlfriend but her reason for not being able to do that was because it wouldn't be 100% not just because of him but because she doesn't think you are right for her. This should not cause pain, it should be reassure that she still wants you in her life forever and she trusts you and confides in you and that is more than enough to ask for which is why you haven't continued to stress, "hey you should date me hey you should date me."
So when she messages you about seeing or meeting another cute guy at random or on a date you don't open up that you are hurt and you don't tell her that it physically hurts your heart. What you tell her is how happy you are for her and that she deserves happiness and excitement in any for that it comes.
She already knows that you want to date her. But she has told you that is not what she wants.
Remember, her snapping at you is not an attack to you but how she communicate as she said so you need to remember that the way you communicate may be a little different and to hear it in your words you need to take a moment to recognize her's first.
This general process of thoughts began with meeting to tell you that you need to remember to be there for her and not take things personally and think about your self which is what you do quite often. Stay calm, she'll be there until the day you die.
31-35, M
